Battling Smartphones as A Parent

Social media feels like a minefield lately. With your aunt being impersonated on Facebook and the mere existence of Snapchat can be easy, as a guardian, to start eyeing that smartphone in your child’s hand a little suspiciously. Can you honestly remember the last time you got on a social media channel and were not bombarded by a variety of political content and schlock? What’s interesting about today’s youth is that it is an essential component in social interaction, which is something that we’re all totally out of touch with. Sure, we text other moms to find out when that coffee date is happening and we like baby photos, but we don’t feel an obligation to like people’s photos on Instagram or watch people’s “stories” on the platform that you prefer. The kids these days, though? They do. So what are kids actually getting out of this constant form of social interaction? Let’s explore:

Do Smartphones Make Us More Connected?

In some ways, certainly. There’s no question that smartphones certainly make you safer. A smartphone is a clever little device and with a variety of safety features already installed, there’s hardly any need to input anymore. There’s codes you can type into your IPhone that will allow it to alert the police that you’re in a tight situation without making a sound. There’s the uber app, which you can download to make sure that at any point when you’re inebriated you don’t have to get behind the wheel to get home. Not to mention the ability to send and receive calls and texts literally anywhere, along with the GPS feature, which can help you find a route home when you’re lost without a data connection, it certainly improves individual safety and probably adds a layer of peace of mind for you about your child. Additionally, it makes sure you’re connected with the people you want to be in contact with most. The little devices keep you in touch with the outside world shockingly well and help you stay relevant and current in general, but is any of this worth the general sense of isolation people feel when they’re attached to their phones that much?

The Case of False Connection

As you grow older, people generally have more going on. You’ve certainly had at least a few friends who are more willing to send you a check-up text than they are to have coffee. In fact, some folks actually prefer to only have communication over the various connection channels through your smartphone. Which poses the question, will a Facebook message carrying a news article be the proper conversation invoking catalyst that your child and their friend need to keep their friendship aflame? Or will social media help our world crumble into a series of false allegiances and pure isolation? The answer, like with most things, is not if you don’t let it. You might make the argument that your child will only need to have a slight misunderstanding over whose texts meant what before they come to realize that face-to-face interaction can actually have a better effect on them. Putting an emphasis on proper communication, and learning to listen to people’s body language and facial expressions as well as all the other communication symbols humans naturally give off when having a conversation with someone, is a skill that cannot be traded-in. Learning to read those symbols might actually give you a leg up on most conversations since so many people are apparently stunted by not encountering those as often as they could have.

Witnessing Only What The Camera Sees

With such amazing cameras popping up on the pricey little pieces of technology called the smartphone, it’s not shocking that most of the social media and the communication that traverses through those various mediums is mainly visual. However, it’s had a peculiar effect on people in the sense that you might make the argument they see less of their surroundings because of their camera. It’s better to do something “for the (insta)Gram,” than it is for the experience of that thing. In fact, there’s been a variety of studies that explain the more pictures you take of something, the more you’ll have a hard time remembering the event in anything but the pictures themselves.

Can You Combat This?

Of course, you can, but probably not in the manner you think you should. Children actually rarely react well to a hard hand in most situations. Making them think that they’re putting down the phone of their own accord is actually a more powerful way to teach a principle that will stick. The bottom line is that smartphones are cool and your child will find the interactive play and the social connection they can access through them fulfilling. Your job is to put an emphasis on finding outside activities also fulfilling. Regular activities that don’t prominently feature a need for the phone will gently expose that it’s possible to do things outside of the smartphone world. Signing them up for sports activities and encouraging artistic endeavors is a great way to see them step away from their smartphone and explore options within their own social circles. Have faith that you’re doing a good job raising them. Their reliance on their smartphone is more of a social expectation than it is, necessarily, something they’ll become attached to in their adulthood.

Give Them A Love of Learning

If you’re striving to find an environment that enriches your child’s mind and offers up a variety of entertaining activities within a comfortable community. Consider private schooling. While RCS can hardly promise that we’ll be able to shake your child of their attachment to Instagram, we can foster a love of learning from an early age and a love of community culture that they will, in turn, learn to encourage with in-person interaction. Introduce your child to a classical education through the top private school in Loveland at RCS and help them fight for their attachment to the real world while finding a love for human interaction as well as our technological innovations that make our lives easier.


The Influence of Communication For Teens- Part 2

Communication is such an important aspect of life. It can be hard to deduce how best to communicate with your child about the importance of being able to express themselves and talk to other people. As the saying goes “it takes a village to raise a child.” Don’t think that the responsibility of showing your child how to express themselves falls entirely on you. RCS is here to help you teach them healthy ways to communicate and why to develop important communication skills. In our previous blog, we explored the risk of not developing communication skills and some ways you might show them how to communicate better. In this entry, we’ll discuss the various aspects of good communication and how it affects all of us in our day-to-day lives.

Benefits of Communication:

Expression is a key benefit of speaking out. While this isn’t always a matter of verbal communication, it’s about being comfortable in your own skin. If your teen loves Doc Martens but feels like they’ll be interpreted in a certain way if they wear those, let them know it’s a sign of expression and they shouldn’t care what people think. Expression is an important part of feeling stable and able to talk about what you feel is important to you. This ensures that your child won’t feel the need to express themselves by dying their hair pink down the road because they don’t feel heard. Instead, they’ll dye their hair pink cause they like pink, or they’ll dye it a flattering color because it promotes their professional goals in life.

Another major benefit of regular communication skills is being able to describe your feelings and understand yourself on a deeper level. If you can describe an experience you can fully understand it. It’s like a reading comprehension question, but in regard to day-to-day life and how they need to be able to handle different situations. By regularly being able to describe a situation, they’ll get better at viewing it objectively and acting rationally rather than based on what their feelings dictate. That goes hand-in-hand with the ability to explain yourself. If you can talk about your values, beliefs and perceptions comfortable you’ll be able to build more open relationships with the people around you. If those surrounding your teen don’t understand your teen, they’ll feel isolated because they are isolated. But that all starts with them. They need to feel confident enough in their communication skills to address their issues in a room and make it so that other people can understand where they’re coming from. That’s the very basis of healthy conflict resolution.

The Ability to Question is Gift

It’s more than being anti-establishment, it’s actually the secret to personal growth. Asking questions doesn’t mean you’re insubordinate to your superiors, it means you seek understanding and you gain a better understanding. If your teen knows why they’re doing something, then they’ll feel happier doing it. People want to know the why behind things so they can rationalize why they have to do it. For example, your teen needs to go to a good school, get a good education and learn how to become a lifelong learner so that they can succeed in the career path they choose. Giving your child the opportunity to communicate first with you equips them to be able to communicate with other people, ask questions and express themselves in a healthy manner so that they feel happier on a regular basis.

Success Is Due to More Than Communication, It’s Due to Education

Having an amazing, private school education that gives you the classical background to communicate concisely and eloquently is the first step any child should take toward success. Whatever path your child chooses for their future career, they need to be equipped to communicate with authority. A classical education can give them the base to explore their world with open eyes and the freedom to speak their minds tactfully. Reach out to RCS, the top rated private school in Northern Colorado to find out more about giving your child the proper building blocks to excel at whatever they try at.


The Influence of Communication For Teens

We know that sometimes it certainly seems easier to just not talk to your teens. They’re combative and nearly always on edge and all those hormones racing through their blood make them into a person that’s not really them. Of course, you want your teenager to be able to talk to when they need you, as you’re their guardian, but establishing that dynamic isn’t always easy. Especially when they’re under layers of stress from feeling unmoored in a world that seems new and unfamiliar every day. Of course, that is an extreme and your teen is hardly a volatile little bottle of poisonous words, hormones and unchecked expectations for the world, they are tumultuous. Understanding how to not let that phase you is part of being a good parent and modeling how to be a good adult to them.

Staying Accessible is Staying in Their Life

When your teen goes out in the world, you don’t know what they’re doing. You have some idea, certainly, but you don’t know how their studies are going in the sense that you don’t know if they’re actually learning or if they’re developing passions for any of the subjects. You know they’re at school and their extracurriculars, but you don’t know if they’re getting anything out of it unless they’re talking to you. In the worst scenario, not knowing how your child is doing in school and if they’re finding passions in their academics and social activities could put you at a disadvantage when your teen starts displaying any sort of unhappiness or when they need help because you don’t know anything about their life. The key to fostering a relationship like this is avoiding criticism. If your child wants to talk to you about something that happened that day they might have messed up, the answer is not to respond with critique. They won’t see it as you helping them, they’ll see it as you not approving of them and shutting them down immediately.

Communication Is Valuable.

If you have any experience in the workplace, you know that communication is of the utmost importance. Since they are your child, they seek your approval in a way you’ve never sought the approval of your co-workers which makes this communication so much more important. They need a sounding board for everything they’re thinking, feeling, experiencing, wanting and not wanting in their life. At times, they just need to feel like they’re not talking to themselves. In fact, there is some evidence that supports the idea that when teens talk to their parents they develop the skills to speak up for themselves. They become less afraid of presenting their own actual opinions and ideas and more functional adults because of it. People who can communicate well with anyone they come across are noticeably more successful than the people who feel stunted by what others will think of their opinions and how they feel about things. This is a skill that will help your child benefit throughout their life in their social and professional lives.

Developing The Wrong Communication Skills

If your child does not develop these skills, they’ll start to develop a form of communicating that is actually the opposite of verbal communication. They’ll expect people to be able to guess at their emotional state and they will become awkward in social situations, prone to shyness and social invisibility which promotes general isolation in life. This is a hardly a healthy way to communicate. The best way to teach a teenager is to lead by example and talk about how there are benefits to speaking up for yourself. Teenagers are inherently filled with a desire to go against the status quo, so if you tell them to speak up more, they’ll view that as criticism, but if you admire the trait in something like a fictional character that you both like, they might associate that as a role model’s trait and try to emulate it. Try casually pointing out a few of these benefits of speaking out in your everyday lives.

Give Your Child The Right Background

Enrolling your child in private schooling equips them with the eloquence they need to feel comfortable articulating their thoughts openly and tactfully. With experience communicating in class with their peers in an educated and civil way, they’ll be able to learn about communication with you, the parent, as well as with other people in their life. Teach your child the meaning of a classical education. Enroll them in the best private school in Loveland today.


Are Video Games Bad For Your Child?

The current political environment is rather tumultuous. There’s plenty of he said she saids and a variety of other arguments that have proven more and more problematic as time goes by. One of those many controversies includes whether or not video games contribute to the aggressiveness in children. Many people are pointing to the quote from Jay Hull, the Dartmouth University professor who proclaimed in the press release for his newest findings on the matter that: “If your kids are playing these games, these games are having a warping effect on right and wrong or they have a warped sense of right and wrong and that’s why they are attracted to these games.” However, the quote and most of the contents of the study are often taken out of the proper perspective to support this narrative of “games are bad for kids.” In fact, Psychology Today claimed that most of the discussions surrounding the piece have been in regard to the press release for the study, rather than the study itself. They mention specifically that “It turns out that this is just another example of how social science is often oversold to a public without the statistical knowledge to evaluate problematic claims.” So, are video games really bad for your children? How will they affect their future emotional stability, their success and what sort of effect does it have on the work you’ve been doing to help them earn their classical education from a high ranking private school? The proper question is actually probably does it have any sort of effect at all? In short, no.

The Actual Research

Learning to read research papers is something that people spend quite a bit of time on, as in they can get a good portion of a college degree merely learning how to properly read research papers and draw conclusions from data. Thus, hoping to be able to grasp these larger concepts as a layman might prove difficult.  We’re here to help you slog through the strange terms and redefine some previous misconceptions you might have when glancing over a study similar to the one Dartmouth produced. In the Dartmouth study, in particular, conducted something called a “meta-analysis of studies of youth to see to what degree violent video games contributed to physical aggression.” First, that means, they were basing most of their data off of other people’s data which is not the best way to conduct the scientific method, as you know if you’re familiar with it. Additionally, they certainly make you believe that they’re measuring these youths over physical aggression, like serious acts of violence like homicides, fights and aggravated assaults. However, they only used teen’s self-analysis and confession of feelings rather than actual evidence of aggression. They specifically mention asking how they would respond to “If I have to resort to violence to protect my rights, I will” as a statement that indicated elevated aggression. If you were asked that question, would you say that you weren’t willing to protect your rights with violence? Probably not. Does that mean you’re an aggressive individual? Also, probably not.

The Actual Study

For that big claim Dartmouth’s leading professor made, it’s rather shocking in comparison to the data he managed to collect. The study itself even mentions that only 1% of youths self-reported in an increase in feelings of aggression, let alone physical representations of actual aggression. This is actually an example of a quite common phenomenon among social science research. For example, if you ask people if they play “violent video games” and then you proceed to ask them how angrily they’ve broken things, those points of data tend to drift toward each other, but that doesn’t mean that’s an accurate way of pulling this sort of data. It’s like asking someone you’ve never seen if they’re white, if they’ve been around people of another race and then asking them how they feel about that race and assuming that that’s an accurate metric of how is racist and how isn’t. The first set of questions creates a bias toward the response of the second question. Psychologists and other scientists alike have expressed that most of these studies, including this one, does not include any more useful information than a Buzzfeed article which is why they have similar headlines.

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How to Raise Happy, Strong Children

Being a parent is stressful. You have quite a bit on your plate, but most importantly you need to concern yourself with the most important investment of your life: your child. Your child’s well-being is one of the most important parts of your everyday life and once you have their basic needs covered, your mind will start to wander toward your child’s emotional development. With so many folks online talking about their abusive childhoods and how easy it is to make a small mistake in regard to rearing your child. So how do you ensure you’re raising a child that will be as resilient as they need to be? Start off with always having their success in mind. If they’re enrolled at RCS, you’re probably already on the right track.

They Feel in Control

We’re sure you’ve seen the various Facebook posts about how controlling parents can damage a child’s long-term emotional development. There are some studies to back up this assertion, but they mostly come in the form of encouraging a successful child. The leading parenting expert in the UK, Sue Atkins, claims that adults who are successful felt in control in their childhood. There are also several strong examples of children succeeding based off of strong, close relationships with their close relatives and people they love. If they feel valued and have control over their lives and the direction they’re going in, they’re far more likely to succeed than children who are constantly urged in the opposite direction of the way they want to go. According to the same leading parenting expert extrapolated that children who won’t have much in the way of emotional stability as adults don’t feel connected to others, don’t feel like they count, and don’t feel capable of taking care of themselves. Most importantly, however, is that children have to feel courageous and brave in order to accomplish their goals and be stable as adults.

Why Are These Attributes Important?

Having the above attributes in both children and adults gives us a positive attitude about life. Quite simply put, it gives the whole thing purpose. The idea is that these four basic building blocks that create a sense of security for the child will certainly promote a “Can Do” attitude later in life, which will render them capable of handling the things that life throws at them. The hope is that children with these advantages will become responsible, happy, and self-reliant. Naturally, as a parent, finding these attributes in your child will be a relief. As it means you’ve done your job fundamentally well.

The Stem Is Connection

In most cases, a human’s ability to both survive mentally and physically relies largely on the ability to connect to others. To put it simply, we move from being infants who are totally dependant on others to being interdependent on others, because that streak never quite leaves. With strong connections to the important people in the child’s life, they’ll be able to thrive and feel secure in their endeavors because there’s always something to fall back on.

Foster Connectivity In the RCS Community

The easiest way for you to foster a sense of connection between you and your child as well as help them build a support system of their own starts with creating a community for them. Wouldn’t you want the community to be more centered around Christian values and the love of education and the pursuit of knowledge? Enroll your child at RCS to receive the private school level of education while tapping into a community where your child can feel supported and safe and thrive throughout the rest of their emotional development.


What is a Classical Education?

A classical education is rooted in the idea of training the mind to think critically. This method is supposed to create lifelong learners. As we know, industries change at the speed of light nowadays. If you aren’t a lifelong learner and you’re rather set in your ways, it’s unlikely that you’ll do as well as you can in your career field. As a parent, we’re sure you’re invested in the future of your child and you want them to succeed. If you’re like most parents, you might even go so far as to take some time pondering how exactly you can give your child the right foundational education to ensure that they thrive throughout their whole life. In most cases, we urge you to invest in a well-rounded, classical education like the one we offer at Resurrection Christian School. Our private schooling education makes a difference in our alumni’s lives because we teach a curriculum that encourages a love of learning and knowledge and encourages rather than forces learning. Below, we’ll continue to explore what a classical education is, and how it can benefit your child in it’s teaching structure.

Training The Mind

Do you have a love of reading? How was it fostered? By forcing yourself to read anthologies regarding history and mathematics? Or did it start with something you learned to enjoy? Perhaps it was a piece of classical literature or something similar, but whatever it was, it had the proper effect. Your love of reading has followed you through life and rendered you a more capable individual in all of your interests regarding hobbies or your career. So how do we foster this similar love of learning and pursuit of knowledge in young minds? Through a tried and true three-part process called the trivium. Where traditional classical educations often begin with merely learning the facts a regurgitating it, more modern classical education studies center on creating a love for the learning while still improving the fact so that the child can have a solid foundational knowledge of simple mathematics and language operations before beginning to play with these pursuits.  

The First Portion Of a Classical Education

Uncreative administrators of the classical education view the first portion of a classical education as the “grammar stage.” But if you compare it to the original idea of a classical education, it’s rather unrelated. The original version of a classical education included advanced studies of different languages which would bolster the child’s skills at learning languages later in life and easily and successfully turn them into lifelong learners. Interestingly enough though, one of the main basics of the original classical education, in the sort that kings and queens, as well as higher-ups in the various courts all over the world, learned first was philosophy. The notion was that the child would be able to learn how to apply philosophical ideas to everyday life and have a better handle on human behavior as well as language and interactions than otherwise.

The Grammar Foundation

As important as it is to create a strong foundation for your child’s learning is, the various ways to get there should be acknowledged and analyzed. Our curriculum leaves room for you to interpret how you want your child’s private education, that is in truth a classical education, to proceed. The grammar stage lays the foundation for the rest of your child’s learning, so ensuring that it’s starting out in the way you’d like it to is important. Check out our curriculums for early childhood learning development and feel free to ask RCS questions about our teaching methods and our philosophy surrounding the classical education you’re investing in for your child.

Invest In The Future At RCS

Don’t enlist your child in public school and roll the dice on their education. Enlist your child in a high-quality learning institute that will help you foster a love of knowledge and the desire to always seek more. Start on the right foot starting today. We provide Christian centered, well-rounded education that bolster your child’s chances of success and much more. We’re passionate about sharing knowledge with your child and ensuring that they don’t struggle, but thrive in their academics. Reach out to us now.


The Secret to a Well Rounded Education

If you’re pondering enrolling your child in private school, you’re probably aware of the value of being a learned individual in the 21st century. In fact, for the past hundreds of years, being someone with plenty of book smarts, and being equipped with a whole, well-rounded education is an advantage that can’t be matched by much. Setting your child up for life includes a myriad of things, like saving for college, teaching them moral obligations, but it also comes with more subtle lessons and tasks. Sometimes, instead of being able to derive some of the most important lessons from various texts, you’ll need to employ experience. As a parent, there’s a whole host of ways that you can access experiences for your child to partake in. For culture and other finer things can only be appreciated after you’ve fostered an appreciation for the ideas of them. Architecture isn’t stunning if it seems commonplace to your child.

The Power of History

To form our ideals of a well-rounded education, we’ve included the study of Christian religions, and the includes the things that bolstered the Christian religion like an acknowledgment of the hardships of yesteryear and how far and long the good book has traveled to be a scripture to this day. Encouraging a sense of awe for how many years the scripture has survived can begin by encouraging an appreciation for the other accomplishments from human-kind. The best way you can combine the principles of awe in regard to our accomplishments as well as create new experiences for your child is travel. There’s nothing quite like going to a new and completely different place to help you really get a sense of how other people live and how their culture formed as opposed to our own. We’ve collected some of our favorite locations to visit to improve your child’s view of history and the incredible expanse of years between us and the monuments that miraculously still stand today.

Rome, Italy

It’s certainly something to seethe birthplace of the Christian religion as well as the birthplace of modern civilization. Rome is home to buildings that are painted the colors of the sunset, with little, rough-hewn cobblestones that are interrupted by little green sprouts that poke up between each cobble. The buildings are all decorated with carved angels, crown molding painted crisp eggshell white and columns with holes drilled into the stone to extract the ancient Roman’s extra support metal that went through the center for more industrial purposes over the centuries. You can peer at the huge chariot ring, with huge modern and ancient buildings built up around its rim, with a gorgeous carved fountain browning the center of the arena and some remainder of the old stadium seating lingering at the elongated curve on either edge. You can walk among the seats of the Coliseum and see the stone crumbling from thousands of years of weathering and use. Pass through catacombs filled with bones and prayers from long-dead lips carved into the walls near the crypts. You can even peer over certain railings along the sidewalk and look down into the depths of what the city once was, as Rome has rebuilt itself on the remains of its old buildings from its start. You can peek through years of history and watch the city evolve through layers, now covered with moss and foliage, but still visible. It’s a stunning area, and the mixture of modern culture in tandem with the undertones of thousands of years of history makes a culture that’s entirely unique from ours.

Beyond the Scenery

Once you get past the surface beauty of such a remarkable place, it’s still a perfect opportunity for your child to get the experiences they need to earn that well-rounded education you’re hoping they’ll have by the time they’re an adult. With the additional knowledge that they can gain from their experiences at Resurrection Christian School, they’ll be able to form opinions about the history they’re walking through. They’ll be able to appreciate the Borgia apartments when they tour the elaborate frescos within the walls of the Vatican as well as marvel at how well the Catholic church has managed to preserve hundreds of years of history for mankind. They’ll get to observe piazzas from ancient Rome that have completely encased and preserved by the Vatican as well as the magnificent art from renaissance artists that have managed to survive for the past 600 years because of the marvel of organized Christianity and an appreciation for humans as they are made in God’s image and love the joy of creation.

The Difference Between Text and Experience

Seeing pictures is never enough in regard to the wonders of art and architecture and human creation. Experience is far preferred and while there are little wonders to be experienced in everyday life, the real privilege comes into play. There are amazing things to be seen in your local area, but the culture and history we have access to is nothing in comparison to what the literal birthplace of Christianity has to offer. From tiny tiled mosaics to subway stations full of bustling people and so much more. If we were to recommend a real bonding experience that can double as a way to put your child’s world education above and beyond, we’d recommend Rome, Italy.

Set The Right Foundation

Rome has been around for so long because the foundation that men like Caesar and Constantine laid for the city. Set the right foundation for your child by investing in their education from the very start. At Resurrection Christian School, we’re interested in providing our students with the sort of education that creates well-prepared adults who are cultured, well-advised and have the proper idea of who God is in their life. Reach out to us to find out more about enrollment opportunities and more now.


Don’t Foster A Dependance On Motivation, Foster Discipline

Plenty of folks have purchased one of those little chores charts that were originally only a sheet of notepaper on the fridge when you were a kid but are now laminated and brightly colored. Before you give your elementary school child that gold star sticker to put on their “I swept the floor” spot, think again. Using rewards as motivation might not be the healthiest habit to foster in young children as there tends to be a lack of self-discipline as they grow older. However, using rewards to produce good behavior is still considered a very effective psychological tactic. It goes by the name “operant conditioning,” and it’s essentially instinctual. The idea is, obviously, if you reward a behavior, then it’s more likely to occur again. Whispering “good kitty” when the cat eats it’s food and offering the dog a treat after performing a trick is the exact same thing. People use it on an everyday basis for themselves because it works. But is it good for you?  

The Main Problem

The problem with the operant conditioning system is fundamentally why and how it works. What this does is foster entitlement. While there’s plenty of intergenerational finger-pointing over who is the most entitled, it doesn’t really matter because it still exists and we all exhibit this rather poor behavior. Every time someone used operant conditioning on you as a child you learned to expect a reward for a good behavior, not enjoy the reward from the behavior. Thus, if that person stopped giving you that reward for the behavior, it’s likely that you stopped the behavior altogether. That means that to get that behavior to start up again, you’ll have to start rewarding them for this simple task, which will eventually turn into an expectation that simple task accomplishment deserves minor rewards for their time. The other unhealthy part of teaching children is that when you ask them to do something in the future that might be considered a favor or a good behavior on their part, they’ll ask you that dreaded question “what will you give me for it.” Suddenly, you’re negotiating their price for cleaning their room and you’ve given up your authority over your 10-year-old.

The Intrinsic Value Deficit

Perhaps the most concerning result of this practice is the undervaluing of intrinsic motivation for children. If everytime they do something good they get a chocolate bar or some form of physical (extrinsic) motivation for exhibiting a certain behavior, they won’t develop any intrinsic reward for themselves. That means that when they perform some empathetic task and are kind to someone, they won’t get that warm fuzzy feeling that makes you feel like you did something good. An extreme example of this behavior is, of course, if children are motivated by physical items to motivate themselves for schooling. Learning will eventually become a thing that is only based on receiving rewards for themselves and they’ll never become lifelong learners, or develop a taste for knowledge at all.

The Study

This hypothesis that’s entirely rooted in common sense was displayed in one of the more famous studies surrounding the topic by a couple of researchers who asked some college students to work on a puzzle in a lab. The researchers informed half of the students that they would be paid for the completion of the puzzle while the others were told they would not be paid. After working for some time, the researchers instructed the students to take a small break and left the kids alone to do whatever they wanted, including work on the puzzle if they’d like. In support of the theory of intrinsic value, the kids who weren’t being paid worked on the puzzle through the “break.” The researchers concluded that in most cases, the extrinsic reward depletes the intrinsic reward involved with anything.

It’s Not Just College Kids

Researchers, of course, tested this on elementary students as well. Specifically, it was pre-school aged children that the researchers presented the opportunity to do a fun drawing activity. They could use a set of nice markers if they wanted a certificate with a ribbon and gold stamp. The other group of children were given the markers to play with and were given the certificate as a surprise in the middle. The children who received the certificate as a surprise returned to the drawing while the children who drew for the certificate stopped drawing with the markers after they’d received their certificate. Since both of these studies were conducted, there have been hundreds more with similar circumstances testing the same thing and finding the same answer. A physical reward completely removes any emotional reward.

Conclusion

This doesn’t mean that you should never reward your children with physical items, after all, we live in a material world. Instead, we suggest that you have a strategy behind providing them physical rewards. If you’re trying to instill in your child a value or behavior that you want them to hold for years to come, an extrinsic reward is probably not the key to the castle you’re looking for. When it’s something like learning or obtaining knowledge try explaining the joy of learning and try establishing learning goals that are an accomplishment in and of themselves. Promote the inherent value by encouraging reading fiction and general self-improvement that teaches kids to feel good about themselves for doing something good. There are other forms of intrinsic rewards that can even go with punishments. For example, if you’re attempting to instill honesty in your child, actually follow through on the promise of not punishing a child if they tell the truth about what they’ve done. They put intrinsic value behind telling the truth because they avoided punishment.

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Upcoming Ways to Enrich Your Child’s Private School Education

Fall is nearly here and there are opportunities to enrich an education everywhere you look. Encouraging your child to find something to enjoy and building happy memories in every season as the year progresses is a great way to combat the seasonal depression that nearly everyone becomes a victim of in the middle of January. Keeping the family active and ensuring that they enjoy the various seasons for their individual opportunities for fun can be enriching for their classical education as well. While life experience can often not be imitated in the classroom, it’s important to bring learning and expanding your knowledge base into every portion of life so that your child is inspired to become a lifelong learner. We’ve collected a few of our favorite opportunities for fun and learning around Northern Colorado to help you enrich your child’s private school education even when they’re not with RCS.

Tour De Corgi

The Tour De Corgi is exactly what it sounds like: an opportunity to watch a parade of the dogs with notoriously short legs and funny waddles dressed in costumes with their owner. There’s a costume contest, a corgi meetup where the pups frolic and play and various vendors to shop and enjoy. Apart from the obvious appeal of allowing the family to take part in the pure joy of a gaggle of corgis, there’s also the costuming aspect which presents a great opportunity to talk about past pop culture trends that formed the culture during a certain period in American history as well as the effect it had on you and your parents when you were younger. It has the potential to be plenty of family fun and a great bonding moment for you and your children.

The French Nest Open Air Market

The U.S. is defined by its entrepreneurial spirit. Take your children shopping inside the French Open Air Market that’s full of budding entrepreneurs that are all offering various scrumptious fall treats and amazing vintage finds. From old weathered plantation shutters to Victorian-era shoes turned into purses, each item can be a peek at history as well as an observation to be made about entrepreneurism and how these shop owners are going about marketing their wares. It’s in the open park in Old Town Fort Collins, so you can smell the crisp air and see the fall leaves changing colors while browsing local vendor’s items.

Harvest Farm Corn Maze

From hayrides to corn pits and choosing a pumpkin, you can do all of your fall farm-themed activities at this one-stop shop. Let your children go through the pumpkin patch and pick out their own, perfect pumpkin to carve while sipping hot apple cider than let the elementary aged kids go check out the petting zoo. If you’re looking for an entertaining time for your older high school or middle school aged kids, a haunted corn maze is always good wholesome fun. A few jumps scares and a chilly night walk through a darkened corn maze nearly always proves to be the thrilling teen experience your kids are hoping for. Safe yet adventurous, it’s the perfect fall activity for your teen.

Fort Collins Reads

If you’re trying to inspire your children to read more, Fort Collins Reads offers a unique opportunity to read the same book as a whole city. The idea is to offer opportunities to initiate literarily fueled conversations with peers and make connections with the community. This year’s read is “Manhattan Beach” by the Pulitzer Prize winner Jennifer Egan. If you don’t have time to read the novel, or you don’t want to give your child too much work in addition to their school schedule, be sure to check out the culminating event where you can watch the renowned author give an author talk about her work. Who knows, it might inspire your child to pursue literary achievements of their own.

Enroll In Private School In Fort Collins

Put the right foot forward for your child and invest in a classical education from the premier private schooling institution in town: Resurrection Christian School. Our curriculum for all of our school years highlights the morality and pure lifestyle that Christian morals inspire as well as instilling a well-crafted classically based education. Reach out to us to find out more about our application process, our tuition, and our curriculum basics today.


What is the Long Term Effect of High Expectations On Your Child (Part 2)?

Intrigued by the possibility that expecting more from your child might just ensure that they achieve it? So are we. As a Christian private school, we understand the importance of instilling upstanding morals while providing a classical education that will immediately springboard them to fulfilling their full potential. If you didn’t catch the first part of our critical analysis of the various encouragement based studies surfacing, catch the first portion of this article. Below, our analysis of the study’s conclusion and success continues.

The Follow-Up Study

After creating the Rosenthal effect theory, they turned their attention to elementary aged children. What if the same effects of expectations in a figurehead could affect a child’s success is the same way it affected the rats while learning? For this test, the researchers didn’t try to make the children run a maze, they merely gave the children IQ tests. They started with a classroom full of 18 children in elementary school whom they gave the IQ test to at the beginning of the year. The researchers then notified the teachers that they had located around 20% of the children that would “bloom” within the next year. They communicated that they expected a high level of academic achievement form those specific children. These children were, of course, chosen at random. Their various IQs ranged over the entire spectrum and were not used in choosing the “20 percent guaranteed to bloom.” The Rosenthal effect proved true once more as, at the end of the year, the bloomer children from the class were performing better and showed an increase compared to their classmates who may have started out with relatively higher IQs. In fact, the bloomer children showed increases in a second IQ test from their first test at the beginning of the year. It offered an interesting idea: was anyone’s success just a self-fulfilled prophecy? Could you expect your child to succeed and they would indeed end up better than they started off, at the very least?

Recent Research

If you search for recent data on this supposed conclusion, you’ll find that they exist and their findings are the same. There was a study in 2014 that found that the expectations of elementary school children were directly reflected in their grades. The old saying that “boys do better in math than girls” doesn’t ring true if you apply simple mathematical principles at a young age with little girls, but once they enter higher grade levels like 3rd and 4th, that changes because of the parent’s expectation. If IQ can be affected by a teacher’s expectations, certainly the ability to understand mathematical equations would be totally affected by a bias. A study from 2015 found that mothers who believed in the idea that girls were not as good at math as boys had daughters that performed poorly in math once they entered their middle years of elementary schooling.

The Conclusion

As a private school that serves Fort Collins, Loveland, and the rest of Northern Colorado, studies like this are troubling and spell out the importance of encouraging parents to expect everything from their child. The more of a conscious and subconscious effort you make toward thinking that your child will be the most amazing person to ever grace the earth and has no limitations, the more the child will naturally emulate those behaviors.

Support Your Child With Private Schooling

Believing they’ll achieve everything they set their mind to and seeing them do it are two very different experiences and they’re separated not only be your expectations but ensuring that your child starts off on the right foot. Investing in a private school means introducing your child from an early age that the expectations for their success are high both consciously and subconsciously. Resurrection Christian School can instill them with both the moral compass to make the right decisions and the potential for great success. Check out our curriculum for this coming year for our elementary school, middle school, and private high school to get started on making your dreams for your child a reality.

We encourage our students in every area of education and interest they pursue. We’re not just the best private school institution in Northern Colorado, we also offer a variety of sports and arts for your child to explore their true calling. From hockey to choir, we’ll inspire and help your child shape their desires and their future. Start the enrollment process today.