Resurrection Christian School works hard to incorporate a community mentality within our student body. Getting involved in your community at a young age can have a variety of benefits on health and social interactions. It also increases a sense of belonging when they are able to develop a connection with their surroundings and people they may not see everyday. Today, we’re going to go through some ways to help get you child not only involved with the community, but excited about doing it.
Find an Activity of Interest
One of the primary ways to ensure your child will be excited about their involvement with a community activity is by searching for an activity that includes an interest of theirs. For example, if your child loves to be outside, find a volunteer opportunity that involves things like yard work for elderly individuals, or building homes for individuals who may not have them (such as Habitat for Humanity). If you have noticed your child enjoys being active and engaging, consider something along the lines of a Big Brother Big Sister program, if age permits. There are always areas to get plugged into within a community, start with those which will feel fun versus feeling like a chore.
Make it a Tradition
An initial way to get the ball rolling on involvement is by making it a family endeavor. There are innumerable opportunities to take advantage of as a family, like serving at a food bank. Oftentimes, there will be a meal for the homeless around holidays, and families can get involved by serving food, setting up tables and chairs, or clean up afterward. Making it a holiday tradition to serve at a food bank once or twice a year is a great way to instill a foundational understanding of the importance of community, as a whole family unit. Additionally, children are more likely to have an adjusted perspective on just how blessed they really are, and how important it is to give back.
Clubs & Classes
Do you have a child that loves to play sports or paint? Look for local sport clubs to have them join, or community art classes to take. Again, find something to cater to your child’s specific interests. This is a great way to have them meet other students who may not be in the same school, or class as your child. As their involvement continues, it’s likely they will be more apt to developing healthier relationships with other individuals, and stay involved with their community.
Check Into Events
Local events are often posted on the city’s website, or placed on flyers around town. You may actually be surprised at how much goes on. Between craft fairs, farmer markets, dog park events, fundraisers for a variety of events, neighborhood organizations, get-togethers, and the like, you are likely to find multiple opportunities your child, and the family as a whole, will love.
Community involvement has been shown to have a positive effect on students who are involved throughout their schooling. The more active and involved they are, the more likely the are to attend school, have better academic scores, and less likely to deal with depression.
Resurrection Christian School is a private school dedicated to providing a boldly Christian atmosphere, where students will be academically equipped and globally prepared. We are a school who’s passionate about our community and partner with those around us to give back. Visit our website today to schedule a tour and enroll today to join the RCS family.
In our previous blog post, we went over some of the necessary tactics to help your child solve conflict. Regardless of your age, conflict resolution is extremely important to practice and implement. There will always be a variety of different personalities to work with, and knowing how to reach an agreement without compromising morals is important. Today, we’re going to touch on a few more tactics to resolve conflict, and how you can help your child be a problem solver in the midst of personality conflicts.
An Effective Apology
One of the most crucial pieces in conflict management is the person identifying what was done wrong, taking responsibility, and then making a statement to work on it so the same issue does not occur again. Here are a few key points to consider that equate to an effective apology:
Not Right Nor Wrong
A common argument that surfaces in the midst of someone feeling hurt is the topic of someone’s feelings being right or wrong. This is a dangerous, and truthfully, irrelevant concept in the midst of apologizing. When there is hurt expressed from an individual, it is not a matter of it being a right or wrong feeling, but rather acknowledging that the individual felt hurt. The end.
Apologize for You, Not Them
Another common way people will apologize is by saying something along the lines of, “I’m sorry you felt so hurt by what I did.” There are few major reasons this does not qualify as an effective apology. First off, you do not need, nor should you, apologize for the other individual’s feelings. Second, it does not take the responsibility for the hurt that was caused. Avoid putting the blame on how the individual was hurt—instead take the responsibility for what was done that hurt them.
When you hurt someone you care about, it’s not a fun reality to face. As a result, people will often defend why they did what they did, or why what was done was not intended to cause the individual pain or hurt. While it make make perfect sense to you, in actuality, it is minimizing the feelings of the one you hurt. When you justify, you’re actually counteracting what an apology is suppose to be. Again, causing someone pain, frustration, or sadness is never an enjoyable thing—but addressing their hurts and acknowledging your responsibility in it, without justifying it, will result in an effective apology.
Spell it Out
Sometimes, the best way to have an effective apology is by writing it out first. Especially if your child is having a hard time putting their feelings into words, writing out their feelings can help articulate them. Additionally, taking the time to spill out their thoughts over paper can alleviate intense emotions, if there are any. Have them practice with you if they feel the need, and encourage them to sincerely consider the other individuals feelings and personality.
Be the Example
One of the largest mistakes you can make as a parent is not letting your child see what a healthy interaction with conflict should look like. Especially in families, conflicts are inevitable, and home should be a safe place to work through them. When there is a tense or heavy conflict that arises between you and your spouse, or another family member, don’t excuse yourself to another room. Practice some of the conflict resolution tactics we address in our previous blog and work through the conflict exemplifying a calm, respectful nature.
Whether you like it or not, your child will look to you as the example for behavior in nearly every arena. It’s part of the joys of parenthood, as you often are challenged to be better in an array of situations. If you notice that you, yourself, struggle with conflict resolution, it may be helpful to talk with your significant other and address some healthy ways to talk and work through them.
Learning to practice these healthy ways of addressing conflict will not only solve current situations, but promote a lifestyle of addressing conflict. Being heard when you are hurt in a situation is crucial— it let’s you know that you and your feelings matter. It’s equally important to know how to handle being addressed when you’ve caused those feelings in someone else. Teaching the art of conflict resolution early on will help prevent situations getting bigger than necessary, which often ends up causing more hurt.
At Resurrection Christian School, we encourage healthy conflict resolution tactics with our students. Our staff is experienced and equipped to help navigate and resolve difficult situations. With a strong Christian foundation, we help each student develop themselves in necessary areas that will ultimately lead them to a well rounded understanding of how to address different variables, in an honorable manner. Visit our website today to learn more about the RCS family, and schedule a free tour to meet our RCS family.
Confrontation and conflict is a part of life. Though there are many ways to handle it, not all of them are beneficial, or healthy. Helping guide your child through healthy conflict can have a lasting effect on them, and give a solid foundation of conflict resolution at an early age. Let’s take a look at some ways you can help your child work through conflict without having to fight.
Teach Them to Talk About it
Oftentimes, kids will confide in a parent or authority figure before talking with the individual they have confrontation with. “Mom, they took my toy away from me” or “Dad, it’s my turn and they won’t share”. In the midst of child-to-child confrontation, take your little one back to the other and encourage them to talk through it with the other child. This is also an effective way of teaching them to verbalize how your child feels in those situations, which can result in effective resolution. Identifying feelings, especially in conflict, is extremely helpful in navigating the situation– primarily, teaching them that it’s okay to feel certain emotions, though it should never lead to disrespect.
Calm Down Time
In instances where the argument or confrontation is particularly heated, encourage space to decompress from the conflict. Allowing time to cool off can be one of the biggest ways to diffuse an intense situation, regardless of age. Encourage space, have each one count and take deep breaths, and come back together once they are less frustrated. When there is intense emotion involved, it’s unlikely that there will be reason in the midst of it all, let alone reach any solution. Once the sparks stop flying, have them come back together and practice the first step of talking about it.
As parents, we become a sort of situation mitigator, primarily in the field of confrontation. This commonly starts early on and can follow them into adult life if not handled properly. One of the best ways to give an example of this is looking at someone who’s passive aggressive in their confrontation. Let’s say a man has an issue with a coworker or family member, but rather than giving himself time to process what makes him angry and communicate it, he addresses authority on the matter. Though he may believe he is being more discreet by not “stirring the pot”, by not addressing the issue and being honest with what’s bothering him, he continues to get frustrated, making the issue bigger than is probably necessary.
These types of situations can be taught to be handled better earlier on by simply teaching your child to take responsibility for how they feel by taking a breath, and expressing their concern, hurt, frustration, etc, to the other child once their calm. Encourage a soft tone, kind words, and the statements like “this hurt me because…”. Oftentimes, the solution to the situation will be pretty simple. Do your best encourage the children to work it out rather than stepping in to solve it for them.
In the instance of your child being the one to be confronted, teach them the art of active listening. Typical of anyone addressed in a confrontation is the act of being defensive, “but they made me…”, “but I had to share when…”, “It wasn’t…” and so on. When this starts, step in and stop them, reminding them that they are to listen to the individual confronting them first. Everyone wants to be heard in situations where they are hurt or frustrated, and it’s important that each child has the opportunity to express their point of view and be heard. Failing to teach these skills early on will create unhealthy, bottled-up, and often, angry individuals. This can lead to poor communication/conflict resolution skills. Because we know confrontation is part of life, implementing these practices early on will potentially help mitigate and diffuse situations later on in life.
These are just a few practices you can start to work on with your child at home. Resurrection Christian School is passionate about providing a healthy, solid foundation for your child to thrive and become a healthy individual. We are focused on being boldly Christian, academically equipping and globally preparing your child for their future. Schedule a tour today to become part of the Resurrection family, your local private Christian school for Windsor, Fort Collins, and Loveland. Check back with us for a few more tips on how to help cultivate a healthy way to handle confrontation.
Getting your student involved in extracurricular activities is beneficial for more than just exercise and creative outlets. Multiple studies have been performed and the results are a lot more influential than initially understood. At Resurrection Christian School, we strive to provide a place for each individual to fit and feel a part of their community. Through extracurriculars such as sports, fine arts and music, we encourage our students to invest and be a part of something much bigger than themselves. Let’s take a look at what benefits you can tentatively expect to see regarding extracurricular involvement.
It has long been known that involvement of activities, like sports and music, are a great benefit to students academically. With a mandatory performance level implemented with participation, a student’s grade is tracked consistently to maintain a high level of performance, balanced with a commitment to their additional activity. According to experts of extracurricular activities, Deam and Bear, stated that “extracurricular activities supplement and extend those contacts and experiences found in the more formal part of the program of the school day.” Additionally, a different study done in 2005 by Darling, Caldwell, & Smith, identified that adolescents involved in extracurricular activities had higher grades and academic aspirations, as well as more positive attitude toward school.
Strictly speaking from an academic standpoint, there is a lot to be said for students who stay active in extracurricular activities. Especially in adolescent years, students are learning a great deal about themselves and how to study. Learning to balance extracurriculars with academic responsibilities helps students develop better time management. Furthermore, another study was performed regarding the correlation of watching television and academic performance and found that those who associated more time with extracurricular activities and less time watching TV resulted in higher test scores and overall grades. There was also an identified correlation with those in music activities versus those not involved with music, and found the influence music had on students greatly improved other unaffiliated academic areas.
At Resurrection Christian School, we empower our students to be more than just a student, we strive to help them be involved in other areas where they can thrive as individuals. Various extracurriculars are available to cater to the unique nature of different students. By opening up opportunity for involvement outside of the classroom, your student will learn more about themselves, what they enjoy, and how to thrive both in their activity, and academically.
Beyond academic success, extracurricular activities are proving to have a benefit with students’ social interactions and attitudes towards school as a whole. Furthermore, there has been strong correlating evidence with extracurricular activity and a stronger self-esteem, as well as increased positive responses and cooperation.
If you consider the atmosphere of extracurricular activities, students are often required to improve themselves personally, but also work as a team. As a result, they are able to develop better social skills, social support and can even increase motivation with an understanding of commitment. While students engage in these activities and learn time management and social skills, they will also learn the art of stress management. Especially in activities that require a team approach, students will participate with others who will have different perspectives. The necessity will then be to problem solve through stressful situations and compromise. Working together to solve any problem will help create a foundation for effective problem solving with others and moderate conflicts that arise.
One of the strongest benefits students can reap from being involved in a coached extracurricular activity is the chance to have a stronger relationship with authoritative figures. Having a constructive, healthy relationship with students outside of the classroom can help strengthen their self confidence, and even improve their attitudes, in and out of the classroom.
Resurrection Christian School thrives because of our passionate, intentional staff members. Developing our students’ personal passions and goals is part of our calling as educators. Providing a healthy outlet and learning environment for these students is what drives us. As a school, our purpose is to help them each find their place within their Resurrection experience, but also in their community. Helping them develop social skills, problem solving skills, and overall self-confidence will play a crucial role in their pursuit of college, and a career. For this reason, we encourage each student to be involved in something outside of the academic world.
For students nearing the end of their high school years, filling out college applications can become a hobby of sorts. In the midst of learning how to improve ACT scores, another factor that plays a large role in the application process is the opportunity for scholarships. When a student is involved in extracurricular activities, especially sports and music, they have a higher chance of gaining favor in scholarships.
Speaking on the behalf of the universities, oftentimes students who are involved in extracurriculars gain admittance more frequently. The appeal lies in the ability for the student to contribute to more than just academic success in the university, but society as a whole. This proves that in addition to the social and foundation benefits of extracurricular activities, students are likely to obtain admission to universities with a higher chance of scholarship possibilities.
At Resurrection Christian, our mission is to ensure our students are academically equipped, and globally prepared. With the highest test stores in Northern Colorado, we are intentional in helping our students successfully approach the finish line of high school, and the starting line of college. Providing extracurricular activities is a crucial part of the process, and we strive to raise students up to find their place amidst the crowd, and thrive as an individual in society. We take great pride in our staff members and are passionate about the success and growth of each student.
Check out Resurrection Christian School today! With an unwavering faith and Christian culture, we strive to build a boldness and perseverance in each student which which we interact. We proudly represent a variety of backgrounds and beliefs in our culture here at RCS, and we can’t wait to meet you. Sign up here to take a tour of our campus.
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Setting your child up for success is a goal of every parent. Passionate and intentional leadership is hard to find, and trusting your child to another environment for five days a week requires a high level of trust. Your child’s day to day life outside of your home is equally, if not more important than their life and routines within their family. The atmosphere your student is immersed in during the school week will have a direct and impressionable impact on her development, both day to day and long term. At Resurrection Christian School, we strive to provide an atmosphere that is healthy, thriving, and boldly centered around the love of God. Resurrection was designed to be a safe haven for students and faculty alike. Our core values speak for themselves, and the unparalleled success of our students validates them.
First and foremost, RCS is unashamed in our bold standing as a Christian school. Designing an atmosphere where God will be glorified and students have the freedom to worship is the core of our motivation. At Resurrection alone, we represent over 70 different churches and denominations. This pool of diverse individuals and believers is what makes RCS the school we proudly call it today. Each student will have the opportunity to grow in their own relationship with the Lord while studying the Bible and praying with other student on a daily basis. Each week we gather our students for a chapel service to encourage the student body as whole to come together and worship. We understand having a safe and open atmosphere is invaluable for young students who are learning more about themselves and their relationship with God.
At RCS, you can be sure our staff and faculty is working to establish a safe and thriving atmosphere where students can personally and spiritually thrive.
RCS has developed a proud reputation of the highest test scores in Northern Colorado. Our qualified and educated staff is devoted to helping each student succeed academically. With an average of 24.61 on ACT scores for incoming seniors, RCS encourages your child to pursue excellence and offers study courses for optimal preparation. For our high schoolers, we offer over 30 hours of college credit along with a full college planning course to help with the application process, scholarship submissions, and financial aid. Resurrection helps your child prepare in every facet of the academic world. In 2016, 100% of our graduates received a scholarship or grant for higher education.
You will never have to fret about the state of your student come college time. Our staff is here to work with and walk through all the necessary processes for college preparation with your child. Preparing them for their future while investing into their present is what RCS is all about. You can trust your child will be academically prepared come graduation day.
Being confident your child is fully equipped and prepared to go into the real world is the last focal point we have here at RCS. We know elementary, middle and high school are merely the stepping stones needed to launch a student into the rest of their life. At RCS we hone in on the talents and needs of your child to help propel them in the direction they are called. With both spiritual and academic support, Resurrection will send your child into the world with encouragement and personal support.
Our passion is the education and success of our students. Resurrection Christian School is not based on the numbers, but on the relationship we openly invite our students to have with God. We strive for excellence in all that we do, and walk with our students to teach them how to do the same. Visit our website today to learn more about the RCS difference today.
Test Prep for Spring: How to prepare & study
Spring is just around the corner, which means testing days will be at your front door before you know it. During the preparation time for these monumental tests, students tend to get overwhelmed with what needs to be done, i.e. scheduling the test, planning out practice test, and the overall time investment necessary to properly cover each subject. At Resurrection Christian School, we proudly provide ACT and SAT prep courses to ensure your child is prepared for testing. However, there are additional ways to help your high school student prepare. Today we are going to go through some helpful tips to aid in preparation, as well as lower the stress affiliated with testing.
If you’re looking for the optimal time to schedule testing, the best option would be spring of your student’s junior year of high school. Choosing this time frame allows a grace period to retake the test, if they so choose, while still obtaining the maximum amount of schooling. As an added benefit, if the first round of testing ends up better than initially hoped for, then you have it out of the way and even apply to schools earlier.
As far as when you should start looking at studying, once you have decided on a test day, count back a couple months in advance and have your child start there. Make sure you choose a time of day where he will test best, for example, if he is a morning person, scheduling the earlier test time would be most beneficial. Once your student has determined the dates to start studying, have him schedule a weekly amount of time to set aside specifically for the SAT or ACT.
Determining Study Time
It can be very easy to go overboard with studying, or procrastinate until the last minute when it comes to sectioning out study time. One of the keys to ensuring your student won’t burn himself out is to line his current schedule up with his other responsibilities, like extra curricular activities, weekly homework, and any other prior commitments. In the midst of the week, try to section out an hour or so where you can. However, understanding how much study time is enough is the first step you’ll need to determine with your student. So how do you do that exactly? Let us oblige an option.
One of the easiest ways to start to choose the best route is deciding how many practice tests you will want to complete. Each practice test will take around three hours, putting your review time around six hours. Reviewing the practice test will be the most effective way to instill healthy habits for the actual test when it comes. Combing through each problem will help your student understand the layout of the test and develop productive problem solving in preparation.
So if your student is wanting to take the practice test three times before the actual test, factoring in the time for taking the test, as well as the review, will help designate the time necessary to prepare. (For some quick math, each test will take around 9 hours total. To take it three times equates to 27 hours. For 12 weeks of studying, that divides out to just over two hours a week, just for practice test.) Once you have identified how many practice tests your student will want to take, he will be able to add in the additional hours necessary to prepare outside of practice testing. In the case that he feels stressed or not set up with enough time, you can always adjust the test date.
The best way to accurately approach the test and all that it requires for preparation is to treat it like it, in itself, is a class. Have your student schedule out study time and test prep/review time as if he has a mandatory attendance and homework needing to be completed. As a parent, you can also get involved in helping him review his practice tests and studying for the next one. Encourage him to be diligent and abide by his time frames set to focus on the test prep. You can even set up a reward system of sorts to help balance out the intense focus time, such as a new game he wanted, money to spend, or sports equipment.
The results from being intentional on SAT or ACT prep study will reflect the hard work put into it. At Resurrection, we understand the importance of the ACT, and the work that is needed to get the score your student desires. RCS is proud to say our average ACT scores for incoming seniors is over 24. That means we work with your child to help them accomplish the small obstacles to help conquer the larger ones. To learn more about RCS and the passion we have for our students, visit our site. Take a virtual tour, or schedule an appointment to come check out our campus in person. We can’t wait to meet you!
High school brings on a unique sense of responsibility. Sports become more competitive, academic performance more crucial, and involvement more necessary than prior years. In the midst of all these commitments, it’s important, as a student, to learn now to navigate and manage your world to set you up for future success. At Resurrection Christian School, we set out to equip our students with all the necessary knowledge to create a healthy and solid foundation for them to launch from into their college years and beyond. To help do this, we know there are helpful habits we can put in place to streamline focus and success. Let’s take a look at some beneficial habits that can help students academically in their high school years, and ideally, ease the transition of what is needed to be successful academically in college.
To properly prepare for tests, quizzes, and class in general, you need to be there. In high school, attendance is mandatory, but this is not always the case in college. Daily class isn’t common, and absences will often be permitted up to a certain point. However, being intentional in your attendance as much as possible will greatly benefit you. Hearing the professor talk through a lesson plan is helpful for visual and audible learners, and will often help you study the subject down the road if you can recall the in-class lesson.
A Place for Everything
Organizing is never a bad idea, nor does it set you up for failure. Keeping tabs on different assignments, taking detailed notes, marking down quiz and test dates, and organizing your binder regularly, will help you manage the ever-growing responsibilities of school. Using the calendar tool on your phone is a perfect way to schedule out important events that will notify you ahead of time. To help encourage your organization, try making it fun. Use folders and notebooks specific for each subject that are different colors, designs, or even ones you’ve made yourself. Developing this facet of studying during high school will not fail you in college years. Especially since classes meet less frequently, designating different areas for each course and marking different dates of importance in your calendar will ensure proper preparation.
Have Time on Your Side
This one is incredibly important to establish as a healthy habit. Understanding your responsibilities and allotting enough time to complete each one is crucial for success in the studying world. If you are a student who is involved in multiple extracurricular activities, sports and the like, you will want to designate study time for yourself throughout the week. Heading into college, professors will spend less time teaching and expect you to spend more time reading and/or studying outside of class. Knowing your physical limits and necessary time frames for studying is mandatory to set yourself up for success. For example, if you are a math wiz but struggle with history, you will want to allot yourself ample time to study for history quizzes and tests. Honing the craft of time management can be difficult, but is extremely beneficial.
Know Your Style
Did you know there are different learning styles? This means that even if flash cards work for some people, you may need to physically write things down multiple times to fully grasp and remember them. Whichever way you learn, do some research to find out what style of studying works best for you, and apply it. Most importantly, study ahead of time instead of the week, or even the night beforehand. You may surprised to hear that frequent, shorter sessions of studying are actually much more effective than studying for hours the night before. Which leads us to our next point.
Never Underestimate Sleep
All-nighters won’t benefit you in high school, nor with they in college. To maintain your health and a solid GPA, studies are showing sleep will have a direct correlation. For this reason, try to study harder earlier in the week, and then go to bed early before a big test. Establishing a mostly consistent sleeping schedule will have a prevalent effect on your studying success and overall academic success.
Power in Numbers
One of the most valuable ways to learn, is in a study group. Finding a few others who help you learn in new ways, and possibly ways you never considered before, will help strengthen your social skills and development in addition to your studying skills. As an added bonus, you will be more likely to study when you have others to keep you accountable to show up and go through certain subjects and areas of confusion you may have. Let’s be honest, studying for a massive test is always better with company.
Last but certainly not least, have a positive outlook on your academic goals. Parents, encourage your child in their studying routines and help them manage the difficult parts. Even in the instance that studying was started later than needed, help them devise a plan to cover all necessary material for the test ahead of time. The mentality going into the studying and test taking is just as important as, and can be directly correlated to, the outcome.
At Resurrection Christian School, we help each child grow and develop individually in their social and academic areas of life. With an average over 24 for ACT scores, and dozens of extra curricular activities to get involved in, you can be sure your child will find a place to thrive. Learning different studying habits, time management, and healthy scheduling tactics can be overwhelming and difficult, if they must be done alone. At RCS, we partner with our students to help launch them into the next stages of life through the establishing of a solid and healthy foundation. We have a passion for each student to grow into who they are, while learning who God is calling them to be. Visit our website today to learn more about our RCS family and take a virtual tour today.
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