How to Help Your Child Deal With Bullying

When we picture our children going to school, we like to image them walking down the halls, talking to their friends, joking around with their teammates, being respectful to teachers and other school faculty. We picture a supportive, caring community that helps your children thrive and feel accepted.

Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Bullying is one thing that happens in too many schools across the country. It is not easy finding out that your child is being bullied, it is also not easy finding out the opposite, that your child is the bully. As hard as teachers, staff, members, parents, and peers try to prevent bullying and help those being bullied, it still happens.

At Resurrections Christian School, we work hard to make sure bullying doesn’t become an issue. Our school’s mission, beliefs, and setup help us to create a community that is caring, loving, and supportive. Since our school begins with preschool and ends with high school, our students grow up together, get to know each other, and become one community. Our weekly chapels, bible classes, and Christian mindset help our school maintain a positive and caring environment and help our students learn to treat everyone with respect.

We want our students to feel safe and comfortable at our school and on our campus. We do our part, now it is time to do yours. Talking to your children about bullying is a great place to start. It doesn’t matter if your child is being bullied, is the bully, or is just an innocent bystander. Every parent should talk with their children about bullying, even if they don’t talk to you about it first.

Are you not sure how to talk to your kids about bullying? In this blog, we will go over some tips to talking to your children about bullying and how to do it most effectively. Read on for more tips and help us end bullying.

Figure Out How to Talk to Your Children

Talking to your children may be difficult. Kids don’t always like to open up to their parents, tell them what is going on, or ask questions about anything that may be hard to talk about. In an Insider article, Jim Jordan, who is the president of reportbullying.com, gave some advice on how to talk to your children and how to figure out the best way to do so.

Jim Jordan mentions that there are three categories when it comes to talking—talking about ourselves, talking about others, and talking about objects and events. Out of these three categories, he mentions that most children hate talking about themselves and their own problems. Talking about others, events, or objects can help your child open up to you and actually talk rather than giving one word answers. Figuring out which way is best to talk to your kids is the hard part, but once you figure out what opens them up the most, you will be able to talk to them about many different things.

Take it Seriously

Bullying is a serious issue and you should never blow it off if your kids talk to you about it. Often times, parents will tell their children to toughen up, ignore the problem or person bullying them, or that the bullying will end eventually. These are things your child does not want to hear, especially after opening up to you about being bullied. Unfortunately, bullying can lead to something worse, so taking it seriously when you’re first told about it or when you first notice something is different can help your children.

Talking About Bullying

If you notice that your child is acting differently, skipping activities they used to love, avoiding school, or no longer hanging out with friends, it may be a sign that they are being bullied. If your child isn’t sleeping well, isn’t eating, avoids certain situations, and has become moodier, bullying may be the cause. When talking to your children about bullying, you don’t want to jump straight to the point. An article from Kids Health, suggests using different opportunities to start talking about bullying, such as a TV show that shows some instance of bullying. You can ask your children what they think about what is happening, what they would do in this situation, and maybe even go as far as to ask them if anyone gets bullied at their school. These questions and this discussion may help them open up to you about their situation and feel more comfortable about the topic.

Even if your child is not showing signs of being bullied, talk to them about the seriousness and tell them that you are always there to listen and help them if anything does happen. Tell your children that if they begin to be bullied or notice someone else being bullied, they need to tell someone, whether it is a parent, teacher, another adult, or a peer. Getting your kids to understand that you will help them and support them through this time can allow them to feel more comfortable if anything does happen.

Dealing With It

Talking to a school principal, a teacher, or a counselor at the school can help get eyes on the situation and hopefully end it. It can be hard dealing with bullies and giving kids advice on how to deal with it. The Kids Health article gave a few words of advice to give your kids. One of their strategies is to simply and calmly tell the bully to stop and walk away. Bullies thrive off of your reactions, so telling your children to not react, ignore them, and even play on their phone while the bully is trying to get to them can help. The bully will eventually get bored and stop bothering them.

There are many different ways to dealing with a bully, and hopefully your children never have to worry about it. But knowing how to deal with bullies and help your children deal with bullies can help make it easier. Your children may want to try getting the bully to stop on their own before you go to the principal, let them try one of these methods and if nothing changes, then seek additional help.

At Resurrection Christian School, we work to keep our community and students caring and supportive. We do not tolerate bullying but know that it happens, that is why we wanted to give parents additional information on how to help your children deal with a bully. Learn more about our school and what we stand for today.


Keeping Kids Busy in the Summer

Summer is a great time for students to relax and take a break from their busy and hectic school lives. Depending on the age of your children, their summers may look very different. From playing with friends to getting a summer job, your kids will be focused on things other than their education.

But summer is also a good time for students to get into trouble. If unsupervised and bored, your kids could get mischievous and try finding ways to keep them entertained, and that doesn’t always lead to reading a book in the backyard. There are many ways to keep your kids busy, having fun, and involved this summer.

Preschool

Your young kiddos, who are in preschool or their early stages of elementary, obviously need some kind of supervision. If you are working all summer make sure you hire a babysitter, find a daycare, or have older siblings take responsibilities. In a daycare they will be kept entertained and socializing with friends. If you hire a babysitter or have your older child take care of them, set up things for them to do during the day, things like going to a museum, playing in a park, or hanging out at the pool.

If you are staying at home with your kiddos this summer, or work from home, come up with fun things to do with your kids that will also be fun for you. Go explore some of the nearby mountains, hang out at a waterpark, or attempt to fly a kite in the park. Plan play dates with your kids Resurrection Christian School buddies, let them play together several times throughout the summer, helping to keep their friendship strong.

Elementary

For your kids who are a bit older and no longer entertained by sliding down the slide over and over again, come up with activities that will challenge them and help them test their limits. At this age, kids like challenging themselves and learning new things.

If you believe your child is old enough to stay home alone, make sure they are not just watching TV or playing video games all day. If your kids love books, be thankful, but also take them to the bookstore or the library once a week to get new books to keep them entertained while they are home alone.

Maybe you are not comfortable leaving your child home alone, if this is the case, sign them up for fun summer camps. Find fun and interesting summer camps in Loveland or Fort Collins for your kiddos, let them pick one or a few out so that they will enjoy what they are doing. From soccer camps to game design camps, there is something that will entertain every kid.

Camps are a great way to keep your kid involved, learning, and meeting new friends. On weekends, be sure to spend time with your children, plan fun activities with them that will keep them excited throughout the week. This is a great way to keep them interested.

Middle School

Your middle school aged kids are generally able to stay home alone throughout the summer, but they are also at the age of lounging around all day, playing video games, and using their cell phones as much as their breath.

At this age, you should attempt to get your kids outside and active. Many on the summer camps in the links above are for middle school aged children as well, find something that they are interested in and keep them moving during the summer.

On hot summer days, being outside can be draining. Getting a pool membership could be the solution to getting your kiddos outside and active during the summer. Going to the pool with their friends will keep them active, socializing, and get them away from the technology that rules their everyday lives.

High School

Once your kids get to high school, they believe they should have complete independence and freedom throughout the summer. This is a great time for them to get their first summer job, whether it is at a local coffee shop, retail store, or mowing the neighbors lawns. Getting a job could keep them busy, help teach them responsibility, and allow them to save some money of their own.

If your teens are in any Resurrection Christian School sports, we have many trainings, practices, camps, and open gyms scheduled throughout the summer. Check the calendar to know the times and places.

It is more of a challenge getting your teens to do things that you tell them to do. At this point, when they are staying home alone on summer days, you just have to hope they are staying out of trouble and keeping busy. On weekends try to plan things with them. This is an important time to build a relationship with your teens and help them through their high school years.

Activities for All

If you are a stay at home parent, or are lucky enough to have summers off, spend time with your children. There are many things, especially in Colorado, that you can do to keep everyone entertained and busy during the summer. Go on family adventures into Estes and Rocky Mountain National Park, hike some of the trails, find new places, and get outside.

Head to Horsetooth Reservoir to swim, paddle board, or cruise around in the speed boat. Try to go to all the museums, art exhibits, and the musical and food festivals in Old Town Fort Collins. This is a great area to stay busy in, with mountains to explore, history to learn about, and endless activities, your kids should never get bored.

Have a family volunteering night. Find an organization or cause you would all like to help with and plan a day that you all can do that together. It will help keep you busy, build bonds, and help out the community. Volunteering when your kids are young is a great way to help them find a passion for it, and hopefully continue it in the future.

Keeping your kids busy, entertained, socializing, and working with the community is an important part of summer. Of course lazy days are always acceptable, but when every day turns into lounging around the house and staring at a phone, planning a nice hike or a trip to the museum is the perfect way to make a boring summer day something special.

Resurrection Christian School knows the importance of keeping kids busy and active throughout the summer. We encourage our students to stay involved, keep active, and enjoy their summer. August 15th is the first day of the next school year, enjoy the time you and your kids have together before the hectic school days take over again.