How to Help Your Child Deal With Bullying

When we picture our children going to school, we like to image them walking down the halls, talking to their friends, joking around with their teammates, being respectful to teachers and other school faculty. We picture a supportive, caring community that helps your children thrive and feel accepted.

Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Bullying is one thing that happens in too many schools across the country. It is not easy finding out that your child is being bullied, it is also not easy finding out the opposite, that your child is the bully. As hard as teachers, staff, members, parents, and peers try to prevent bullying and help those being bullied, it still happens.

At Resurrections Christian School, we work hard to make sure bullying doesn’t become an issue. Our school’s mission, beliefs, and setup help us to create a community that is caring, loving, and supportive. Since our school begins with preschool and ends with high school, our students grow up together, get to know each other, and become one community. Our weekly chapels, bible classes, and Christian mindset help our school maintain a positive and caring environment and help our students learn to treat everyone with respect.

We want our students to feel safe and comfortable at our school and on our campus. We do our part, now it is time to do yours. Talking to your children about bullying is a great place to start. It doesn’t matter if your child is being bullied, is the bully, or is just an innocent bystander. Every parent should talk with their children about bullying, even if they don’t talk to you about it first.

Are you not sure how to talk to your kids about bullying? In this blog, we will go over some tips to talking to your children about bullying and how to do it most effectively. Read on for more tips and help us end bullying.

Figure Out How to Talk to Your Children

Talking to your children may be difficult. Kids don’t always like to open up to their parents, tell them what is going on, or ask questions about anything that may be hard to talk about. In an Insider article, Jim Jordan, who is the president of reportbullying.com, gave some advice on how to talk to your children and how to figure out the best way to do so.

Jim Jordan mentions that there are three categories when it comes to talking—talking about ourselves, talking about others, and talking about objects and events. Out of these three categories, he mentions that most children hate talking about themselves and their own problems. Talking about others, events, or objects can help your child open up to you and actually talk rather than giving one word answers. Figuring out which way is best to talk to your kids is the hard part, but once you figure out what opens them up the most, you will be able to talk to them about many different things.

Take it Seriously

Bullying is a serious issue and you should never blow it off if your kids talk to you about it. Often times, parents will tell their children to toughen up, ignore the problem or person bullying them, or that the bullying will end eventually. These are things your child does not want to hear, especially after opening up to you about being bullied. Unfortunately, bullying can lead to something worse, so taking it seriously when you’re first told about it or when you first notice something is different can help your children.

Talking About Bullying

If you notice that your child is acting differently, skipping activities they used to love, avoiding school, or no longer hanging out with friends, it may be a sign that they are being bullied. If your child isn’t sleeping well, isn’t eating, avoids certain situations, and has become moodier, bullying may be the cause. When talking to your children about bullying, you don’t want to jump straight to the point. An article from Kids Health, suggests using different opportunities to start talking about bullying, such as a TV show that shows some instance of bullying. You can ask your children what they think about what is happening, what they would do in this situation, and maybe even go as far as to ask them if anyone gets bullied at their school. These questions and this discussion may help them open up to you about their situation and feel more comfortable about the topic.

Even if your child is not showing signs of being bullied, talk to them about the seriousness and tell them that you are always there to listen and help them if anything does happen. Tell your children that if they begin to be bullied or notice someone else being bullied, they need to tell someone, whether it is a parent, teacher, another adult, or a peer. Getting your kids to understand that you will help them and support them through this time can allow them to feel more comfortable if anything does happen.

Dealing With It

Talking to a school principal, a teacher, or a counselor at the school can help get eyes on the situation and hopefully end it. It can be hard dealing with bullies and giving kids advice on how to deal with it. The Kids Health article gave a few words of advice to give your kids. One of their strategies is to simply and calmly tell the bully to stop and walk away. Bullies thrive off of your reactions, so telling your children to not react, ignore them, and even play on their phone while the bully is trying to get to them can help. The bully will eventually get bored and stop bothering them.

There are many different ways to dealing with a bully, and hopefully your children never have to worry about it. But knowing how to deal with bullies and help your children deal with bullies can help make it easier. Your children may want to try getting the bully to stop on their own before you go to the principal, let them try one of these methods and if nothing changes, then seek additional help.

At Resurrection Christian School, we work to keep our community and students caring and supportive. We do not tolerate bullying but know that it happens, that is why we wanted to give parents additional information on how to help your children deal with a bully. Learn more about our school and what we stand for today.


Helping Build Character in Kids

There is a quote from John Wooden that says, “The true test of a man’s character is what he does when no one is watching.”

Our character is who we are mentally and morally, it is how we act in different situations, the traits we carry with us throughout our lives, and something that can be learned. While your child may learn some of these positive character traits on their own, there are ways to teach them and help them develop these characteristics. Helping your child grow to be compassionate, peaceful, confident, responsible, and empathetic people is easier than you may think, but does take some work.

By teaching your child these traits and helping develop these characteristics, you can help them become the person you and God hope they become. You want your child to be caring, loving, and thoughtful. There are different ways to help your children develop these characteristics and grow with them, helping them be a caring person throughout their lives.

There are many important characteristics that we need to teach to our children and help them develop. We want them to be kind to those who need it, to be confident in their own abilities, and to stand up for what they know is right. At Resurrection Christian School, we encourage these character traits and push our students to build their character and work on these positive characteristics. Peers, staff, family, and everyone else your child is surrounded by can influence their character and who they become, but when your child is surrounded by a supportive, compassionate, and thoughtful atmosphere, they will be more likely to build and develop characteristics that help them become a good person.

There are many characteristics that we want to help our children develop. In this blog we will go over some of these character traits and how to teach your children about each, as well as how to help your child develop positive traits overall.

Kindness

Being kind can make all the difference in the world and teaching your child to be kind to everyone can help them to build friendships, to make a difference in their community, and can help spread the kindness. Overtime your child will understand what kindness looks like and how they can show kindness to others, but to get them to recognize this easier, iMom suggests giving them tasks that they can begin to recognize as kind. Tell your kids to find a person at recess or at lunch that is alone and askthem to eat or play with you. This can help a lonely child feel as though they belong and help your kid learn more about kindness and find other ways to be kind to others.

Volunteering can also help your children develop a kindness. They will be able to see the difference they can make and how their kindness can spread to others. Kindness and compassion are characteristics that everyone should develop and learn, and teaching your children at a young age can help to spread the love.

Responsibility

Teaching your children how to be responsible at a young age can help them throughout the rest of their lives. There is a lot to teach a child about responsibilities. Start by giving them chores around the house, have them clean up after themselves, help load the dishwasher, get their younger siblings a snack, and other small tasks. This can help them to realize that they will have to put others before themselves and their own wants. Teaching them responsibilities within the family will help them to understand their responsibilities within society as they get older as well.

You also must teach them how to take responsibility for their own actions and accept the consequences. Character Ed mentions that parents should never make excuses for their children’s behavior or shield them from the consequences. Children need to learn from their actions, take responsibility, and accept the consequences.

Manners

Teaching your child manners can help them to develop and grow into polite adults. Manners are an important things to teach your children. Teach them how to properly greet someone, the interrupting is rude, and how to act polite in public. Start by helping your little ones learn how to do polite introductions, with eye contact, a firm handshake, a smile, and a name. It is easy to be impolite when meeting someone for the first time and many adults to it all the time, even by accident.  Whether they have something on their mind, have had a bad day, or are rude by accident, it happens all the time. Teaching children how to be polite and working with them on it can help them to develop polite behaviors which they will hopefully use for years to come.

Patience

A patient child is not something we see often. Whether they are tagging along for a shopping trip, sitting through church with you, or waiting for you to catch up with your friend, kids are terrible at practicing patients. But patients is important and can help people throughout all of life. Teaching your child the importance of patience and how to be patient can help them develop this trait and carry it throughout the rest of their life. Challenge them to make it through a chopping trip without complaining. Allowing your child to doodle or participate in some other quiet activities while you are shopping or in church can help them stay distracted and quite so you can pay attention or finish shopping quickly. But as they grow older, teach them to be patient without a distraction.

There are many different character traits that you can teach your children to help them become a person with strong morals and compassion. Teaching your child these characteristics may be easier than you think, besides telling them to be kind to others, giving them responsibilities, and teaching them manners.

Lead By Example

As parents already know, children learn a lot by watching and observing the people around them. This could be you, their siblings, their friends, a teacher, or just other people in public. But since you are around your child a majority of the time, they will probably pick up more habits from you than anyone else. Make sure you are showing your character so that they know how they should act. If they see you lose your temper with a waitress for bringing the wrong food, they will think it is acceptable to treat others like that. They will see the way you act and follow your lead. Even if you tell them to act a certain way, they are more likely to copy your actions than listen to your words.

When you are out in public with them, think hard about how you are acting. Even if it means you have to refrain from speeding through a red light, stop yourself from shouting at the car in front of you, or control your emotions while standing in a long line. It is important to make sure you are being a good example for your child and showing what it means to have good character.

Challenge Their Morals

When you are teaching your child about morals and character, challenge them and make them think about what these things mean. Ask them why they acted a certain way and how they would feel if someone treated them like that. When they have a difficult choice to make ask them what they think the right choice is and why, let them explain their answer and then give them your opinion and talk about the other perspective. As you challenge them and force them to think about their moral choices and characteristics, they will be able to understand them better, why they matter, and what they choices we make can change how people see us.

Talk About Character

Even talking with your children about character and morals can help them understand them better and learn what is right. They will be able to hear your opinions, make their own, start to think about their own character and moral beliefs. While your young children may not be the ones you want to have this conversation with, your older kids are perfect to talk with. Have them tell you how they think they should act, what they believe is right, how they think they should treat others, and so on. Your older children will gain new insight from talking about this with you.

Helping your child build character can help them in every stage of life. They will learn how to be compassionate, kind, polite, patient, and so much more. They will understand how they should treat others and how they should respond in different situations. Building character may come naturally for some, but others need to learn how to be caring, kind, and honest. Your children will learn a lot from watching you, so make sure you stay true to your character and follow your moral compass and try to refrain from reacting negatively to situations

You children can also learn a lot about character and morals when they attend Resurrection Christian School. We push our students from elementary to high school to be more caring and kind to their peers, to be honest and patient, and to be polite and respectful to everyone they meet. Building character isn’t tough, but it is easy for someone to get it wrong. Contact us today to schedule a visit and learn more about our schools.

 

 

 


Easy Ways To Give Back To The Community

Winter and the holidays are a time when a lot more volunteering opportunities are available. Many people tend to volunteer more during the holidays, perhaps because they feel like giving back to the community, or maybe it is because the holiday spirit brings out the best in people. Whatever it is, the holidays are a great time to get involved and help out your neighbors, friends, and the community. There are many different ways to help out, not all volunteering has to be done through events or organizations.

Volunteering and giving back to your community is a great way to spend family time together while making a difference. Volunteering with your kids can show them the importance of helping others and giving the holidays a different meaning. It may even encourage them to spend more time throughout the year helping others and making a difference.

Finding time to volunteer may be difficult, especially around the busy holiday season. But there are simple things you and your family can do that can make a difference and help those around you.

At Resurrection Christian School, we encourage our students to get involved in the community and volunteer in different ways. Our students take part in different organizations throughout the year, including Art for Water, Operation Christmas Child, and more. But we also encourage our students to get involved in the community outside of school, whether it’s with their families or friends. Encourage your kids to volunteer and help out your neighbors and friends this winter, and feel free to join them!

There are simple ways to help out and give back, in this blog we will go over different things you and your kids can do for your community and neighbors, starting this winter!

Donate

In our previous blog, we discussed donating old toys that your kids aren’t playing with anymore. But you can go even further than that. Go through old books, jackets, clothing, kitchen supplies, and other things that you can donate. A lot of these items are needed by families and sadly many families who take part in Adopt-A-Family, ask for winter jackets, gloves, strollers, and other items for Christmas. They don’t need the latest toys, they need everyday items. So, if you have extra items lying around your home and donate them, allowing people who need these items to get a hold of them.

Another simple way to donate is to find loose change around your home, car, backpack, or purse and drop it in a Salvation Army bucket. Every penny counts, and your spare change can help change someone’s life.

Donate your time to help your at your church’s food drive, toy drive, or whatever other volunteer events they host. Sign up for some of these with your family and spend one day on the weekend helping out. Your church is a great place to find these event and get involved with your community.

Head To The Senior Center

Senior citizens often get lonely around the holidays. Many of them do not get visitors, and this time of year can be hard for them. There are many senior centers around Fort Collins and Loveland, and many of them are happy to have volunteers come to visit the seniors. Spend some time learning their stories, talking to them, and reading or playing card games with them.

This is simple to do and can be fun. Your children will love hearing the stories the seniors have to tell and the time spent listening means a lot to these folks. This easy activity will make all the difference to those who never get visitors. Visiting senior citizens is a great way to make a difference, and can truly brighten someone’s day.

Pay It Forward

A small gesture is a great way to make a difference and help spread a bit of holiday cheer. When you are getting your morning coffee at your favorite coffee shop, pay it forward by buying the coffee of the next person in line. This type of action can start a chain reaction and get people passing of the good gestures all day long. Sometimes it is fun doing a good deed without anyone knowing about it, it is like being Batman, but without the villains.

You never know how your contribution can change someone’s day. When someone is having a bad day and they feel likes nothing can go right, a small and simple thing like this can completely turn it around. You could help someone with more than just their coffee. You could brighten up their day and put a smile on their face. This is fun for your and your family to do as well. Ask your kids to pick out a family at a restaurant and pay for their meal. Your kids will love the secret surprise and the family will never forget a moment like that.

Help Neighbors

Your neighbors may be strangers, or they may be your best friends. Either way, helping them out from time to time is a great way to help out in your community. If you have an elderly neighbor, encourage your children to shovel their driveway when it snows, help them put up Christmas lights, or any other small task that may help out. Help carry in their groceries, offer to walk their dog, and help in any other way you can think of.

Another fun thing for you and your family to do for your neighbors is to make Christmas cookies and deliver them to each home. This is a great way to reconnect with your neighbors and spread some holiday cheer.

If some of your neighbors are new parents, have your teens offer to babysit for them while they go on a date night. They will love the break and be grateful they are able to spend a night enjoying each others company. If your teen already babysits a few of the neighborhood kids, then this is a great way for them to give back. Encourage them to offer to babysit for free and allow the parents to get a break.

Make Care Packages

Unfortunately, the homeless population in Fort Collins are growing, and while many people think that giving money and other items to the homeless is making the problem worse, they are in need, especially as the weather gets colder. Make simple care packages to hand out as you see people you need them. This is an idea from Foodlets, and is an easy way to make a difference.

These care packages don’t have to be extravagant, they can be simple and just carry items that are needed. Some ideas include: socks and underwear, granola bars, bottles of water, gloves, hand warmers, packets of gum, Advil, and snacks that last. These are simple items to get and distribute, and they are sure to make a huge difference, helping someone who is truly in need.

Say Yes To Different Opportunities

There are many different ways you and your kids can make a difference everyday without even realizing it. Your children have the ability to volunteer through the organizations we have at Resurrection Christian School, that is a good place to start. Be a good example for your kiddos and say yes to different opportunities that present themselves.

Many sports clubs or schools will have students stand out front of grocery stores and hand out lists of items they are collection for families in need. Instead of grabbing a list and throwing it away, get a few items off the list. Even if it means you don’t get your favorite ice cream so you can get a jar of peanut butter for another family, this is an easy way to help out.

Donate to the Salvation Army bell-ringers, pick a name of off the Christmas tree in the mall that asks you to get gifts for other kids, help out in your church, and take part in different volunteering opportunities that pop up in your life. If you do this, and this alone, you will end up helping out more than you know. You will make a difference. If everyone did this, imagine how beautiful of a world it would be. This is a simple way to help out your community. You can find a list of other way you can give back here!

Volunteering and giving back to the community is important, especially around this time of year. Starting a family traditions focused on helping others is a great way to give back and can help you children become more involved throughout the year. Resurrection Christian School is a great place for your kids to start. We encourage our students to give back to the community and we hope you do as well! Contact us today to learn more!


Teaching Your Children Honesty

There are many values that are important to teach our children, values that will help them grow and develop into well-rounded adults. These values include everything from empathy and kindness to perseverance and patience. Teaching your children to behave properly, treat others with respect, and even to have self-confidence can be challenging, but it is important.

One other value that is important to teach your kids is honesty. Being honest can be hard, especially at a young age. But helping your child understand the importance of being honest can help them to grow to be honest teens and adults. Children are able to tell the difference between lying and telling the truth, but whether they choose to tell the truth depends on what you to help them realize the importance of honesty.

We have talked a lot about helping your children learn these important values in life and at Resurrection Christian School, we help to encourage our students to live by these values. While we can help to make your students well-rounded people, it is your job as their parents to teach them the importance of being empathetic, kind, patient, and honest.

In this blog, we will help by giving you tips to teaching your children and teens honesty. Keep reading to learn more and help your kids learn an important life lesson.

Teaching Your Kiddos

Before your children reach their teen years, establishing a sense of honesty can help them to stay on the right track. Honesty should become part of your child’s moral compass, allowing them to understand that telling the truth is the right thing to do.

Children lie for many reasons, whether they are scared of the consequences, afraid to disappoint their parents, or simply know what they did was wrong. But what you need to establish, is a safe place to tell the truth. If they feel worse for telling the truth, it is not likely that they will do it often.

Don’t Label

Calling your child a liar is not something that will help them become more honest. Kids lie for a reason and if you throw a label on that, they may begin to live up to that label. Both babycenter and sheknows mention that calling your child a liar will only make teaching your child about honesty more difficult. Instead, explain to your children that your don’t like lies but that doesn’t change the way you feel about your child.

The babycenter article suggests saying something that give your child a chance to explain why they lied. Try saying, “I don’t like lying, but sometimes we lie because we are afraid we did something wrong.” This will allow your kid to understand that lie is bad, but not make them feel so guilty for their little lie. This gives them a chance to explain to you why they lied and tell you the truth. Letting your child know that telling the truth is the right thing to do, even if what they did was bad, they will begin to develop a sense of honesty.

Don’t Give Them Opportunities

Some things that parents do or ask, give children the opportunity to lie. Asking if your child finished their homework as they are running out the door to play with their friends, is a great example. They are not going to tell you that they haven’t finished and risk not being able to play with their buddies. Instead, ask them to show you their homework when they finish and then they can head outside to play. If they know you are expecting to check up with them and make sure their work is all done, they will not have a chance to lie and they know it. Be sure to check up with them though, if you say it and don’t do it, they will use that knowledge next time to lie and head outside early.

If you set your child up to tell the truth, they will be more likely to tell the truth since you are making it hard for them to lie. While real life situations won’t be as simple to know the right answer, they will have practice telling the truth which will help them to know what to do in situations that aren’t set up for them.

Don’t Let Lies Slide

When your child lies to you, there must be consequences. If you simply say don’t lie and move on, they will not see the negative consequences that come with a lie. But keep in mind that you don’t want your children to feel afraid of the consequences. Like we said before, your child should feel safe about telling the truth, they should know that they will be in less trouble for telling the truth than the were for the lie.

When your child tells the truth, praise them. Thank them for being honest with you and ask them why they lied. Knowing their motive will help you to understand what the problem was and why they were scared to tell you the truth. If they lied about getting a bad grade on a homework assignment because they were scared you would be disappointed, you can let them know that if they ever need help on homework they should let you know so you can help them. If you get mad about the grade and raise your voice at them, they will be more likely to lie the next time as well.

While some punishments may be too harsh and cause your kids to fear telling the truth after they lie, one thing you can do is to help them set it straight. If they did something wrong and lied about it, tell them that they have to make it right. If they took a toy from their friend’s house without their friend knowing, take them to return it to their house and apologize for taking it. Their friend will be happy to get their toy back but may be mad at your child. Tell your child that it was worth telling the truth because the friend was happy that their toy was returned to them, even if they are upset with your child. Tell them you are proud that they chose to tell the truth, it will make them feel better as well.

Teach About White Lies

Teaching your child the difference between lying and little white lies may be challenging, but it is also important. You want your child to be polite rather than blurt something out that may hurt someone’s feelings. Rather than teaching them that it is okay to lie sometimes, teach them to find something nice to say instead of saying a truth that may be hurtful. Teach them the famous saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” This will help you kids either find something else positive and kind to say, or they will keep their hurtful truth to themselves. This is an easy way to teach your child about white lies without calling them lies and keep your kid honest.

Reminding Your Teens

Even if you teach your younger children to be honest, as they grow into teenagers, they will have more to lie about and more serious things to lie about. Whether your child is usually good at telling the truth or they are known to tell a lie, they will need a reminder about why telling the truth is important.

Lead By Example

One way you can remind your teen that being honest is important is to be honest yourself. If you mess up don’t hide it from your kids or spouse. Tell them the truth and let them know that you made a mistake or did something that they may not be happy with. If it easy to lie, but if you want your children to adopt honesty, you must be honest.

When your teens are around, be sure to model honesty. They will be watching and pick up on your lies, even the little ones. So be sure to stay honest and show them that even if it is hard to tell the truth, it is the right thing to do. This includes what you tell them about lying. If you tell them they won’t get in trouble for telling the truth, don’t punish them when they do.

Don’t Overreact

Teens will often test their parents to see how they react when they tell them the truth. According to an article from the Washington Post, staying calm, curious, and not overreacting can help encourage your teens to tell the truth. If they are honest about their terrible test grade and you lose your temper, they are less likely to be honest about something else that may be more serious. They are gauging your reaction, so try not to react negatively.

Make Punishments Fair

Hopefully your teen is not lying about anything too serious, but if they are the punishment may need to be more serious as well. But for small lies, keep the consequences similar and fair. If they lied about failing a test, take their phone away for the night while they focus on their homework. Fair punishments will help them realize it was wrong to lie but not make them fearful of telling the truth.

Talk It Out

Talking with your teen is effective. They are old enough to have a conversation so show them that you view them as a young adult. Even if it turns into an argument, try to figure out why they have started lying so much, ask how you can help, and communicate why you are upset that they are lying. A conversation may be better than any other tactics.

Teaching your child and teen honesty is important and can help them develop into an adult with values. Use these tips to help teach the importance of honesty and don’t forget to set a good example. At RCS, we help our student learn these important values and more. Take a tour and contact us for more info!


Teaching The Importance Of Failure

Every parent wants their child to be successful, to do that best they can in everything they do. Parents push their children to get straight A’s, all while maintaining a social life, extracurricular activities, and working towards their future. Not only is the pressure to succeed hard on children, but parents often become too involved in their children’s life to let them fail, which may seem like a good thing, but isn’t. Failure helps to build character and allows people to learn from their mistakes. Teaching your child that failure is bad, is more harmful than letting them fail.

Teaching your child that failure is okay may be difficult to do, but this can help them to understand that mistakes can help them to succeed. However, teaching your child to fail must be done right, you want to make sure they know that failure only means that can learn from their mistakes, not give up. This is why we teach our children about failing, because we want them to learn and grow from it, not quit because of it.

While you may not want your child to fail at all, eventually they will, and when they do it is important for them to know that from failure comes success. Many people who were taught that failure is a bad thing may have been successful for so long, but everyone fails eventually, and the difference is what you do with that failure. People who are scared to fail may give up more easily out of the fear of failing again. For this reason, it is important to teach our children to fail and to come back from their failures.

Your child’s success is important, but helping them develop the right mindset about failure and hard work can help them to reach success and be more confident when they do fail. At Resurrection Christian School, we want our students to succeed just as much as you do, and we maintain a 100 percent graduation rate while offering unique and rigorous courses. We work hard to help our students succeed and offer college prep for our high school students, allowing them to properly prepare for their future.

There are certain precautions you want to take when teaching your children about failure. Helping them to have the right mindset about their abilities can help them to overcome failure and become successful. In this blog, we will cover different lessons to teach you child about failure and how you can help them to perceive failure as a learning opportunity.

Parents Mindset

The truth of the matter is that parents have a huge impact on the way their children view the world and their mindset on different matters. An NPR article takes a deeper look at a parent’s effect on their children. In this article, they mention that children who view their abilities as something that can change overtime handle obstacles, such as failure, in more constructive ways. Parents can help kids to develop this mindset.

The way parents react to their children’s failures and mistakes can alter the way the kids view their abilities and intelligence. The NPR article quotes Kyla Haimovitz, a professor of psychology at Stanford University. Haimovitz says that parents need to react in certain ways to help their children develop this mindset, that abilities can be improved with hard work  and to not give up. If you child come home with a bad grade on a test, the way you react could change the way your child thinks. Saying something that implies they are better in other subject and and reassuring them that they still have talent in other areas may seem like a good response, but it could also tell them that they should give up in the subject they got the bad score in, since they have other areas they are better at. You want your children to keep working at these things and try improving their skills and knowledge, so saying they are better in other areas may send the wrong message.

Haimovitz and her colleague, Carol Dweck, conducts studies to see how a parent’s view on failure changed the cay the children feel about their abilities and intelligence. They found that, “the more parents believed that failure is debilitating, the more likely their children were to see them as concerned with their performance outcomes and grades rather than their learning and improvement.”

After surveying parents about their feelings towards their children coming home with a failing quiz grade, they found that parents who saw failure as an opportunity believed their children could still improve in the subject. They were more likely to ask their children what they have learned from the quiz, what they can still learn, and if their child asking for a teacher’s help would be useful. The study concluded that a parent’s reaction to failure directly caused the child’s beliefs.

The point of all of this is to react to your child’s failures and setbacks in a way that helps them and gives them a desire to improve. Rather than focusing on their abilities and whether their abilities can improve, focus on how they can improve and what they can learn from their mistakes.

Dealing With Failure

After you realize that your perception on failure matters to your child’s beliefs, it will be easier for you to help them deal with failure. Your child will fail at something eventually, everyone does, but the way you help them deal with it is what is important.  

An article from Child Mind® Institute lists out the process of teaching your child to fail, provided by Dr. Amanda Mintzer, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute. The first step is to show empathy. Your child will be disappointed when they fail, especially if they did work hard. Don’t brush off their feelings, rather tell them that you understand their disappointment and know they wanted to do better and worked hard to do better. Help your children understand that failures happen in life, to everyone. Letting them know that you have failed many times before can help them see that from failure comes success.

The way you react to failure can help your child learn how to react as well. If you take it as a learning opportunity, they will develop that same mindset and try learning from their mistakes rather than giving up. When your child fails, talk with them about what they could do differently next time or what they can learn from their failures. If they failed a test, help them figure out how to study differently or what to study. We have all failed tests before because we studied the wrong material or we did not study the right way. Helping them figure out the best ways to study or learn from their mistakes can help them to grow and avoid the same failures in the future.

Using Failure As An Opportunity

Teach your child to try again. Giving up will never help them reach success and trying again may be scary, especially after failing, but it is important. Teach them that perseverance can help them to reach their goals and be successful. If your child is having a hard time using their failure as an opportunity, share these quotes with them from Forbes, from very successful people, who have all failed before.

Failing is the best learning experience we can get. It teaches us what not to do, allows us to think about what to do differently, and helps us build character. Experiencing failure and other setbacks can help a child (and adults) to become more humble and allows them to learn how to be a good sport about it. Teaching your child to have a good attitude after a failure is important as well. While it may be hard to put a smile on your face and try again, it is important and can help other people view you differently.

If you child gives up after failing, they will never learn the importance of perseverance and they will quit every time they run into a complication. Whether your child fails a test or loses a game, teaching them that they can improve and do better next time can help them to not feel completely defeated. Working hard to do better on on the next game or test can help them to build a better work ethic and can lead them to success. The true failure quits rather than trying again.

No one wants to fail. But failing is one of the best things we can do, because it helps us build character, learn from our mistakes, and work even harder to reach success. Failure helps us to develop a more positive mindset about our intelligence and how we can improve. Many parents push their children to succeed, which we all obviously want, but those children who fear failure, will take it so much harder when they do fail. Teaching our children that failure is nothing but a learning opportunity and a chance to try again in important and will change the way they view failure. To be successful, you must first know how to fail and how to come back from that setback.

At Resurrection Christian School, we don’t want our students to fail, but we do want them to understand that failures happen to everyone. And more importantly, we want them to know how to use that failure as a positive in their life, learn from it, and be successful the next time they try something. Teach your child how to fail and help them to succeed. We can help your child prepare for the future and all the setbacks they may face, and how to deal with them. Learn more about our school, and set your child on the path to success.


Helping Your Children Grow Into Leaders

There are two types of people in this world—leaders and followers. And while that may seem cliché, it is true and there will always be those who enjoy taking control of different situations. Some leaders may surface during situations that require someone stepping up to the challenge. And a leader can be made. Children have the possibility of turning out in one of two ways, will your child be a leader or a follower?

Every parents wants their child to be a leader—to have the attitude, mentality, and ability to lead a group and themselves. And this is something that you can teach your children. As parents, you can help them learn how to think as a leader would and act as they would act. At Resurrection Christian School, we understand the importance of leadership among different peer groups, and we love seeing our students emerge as leaders. There are many different things you can do to help your children develop and grow into leaders. These lessons and skills may come naturally, but there are ways you can help your child start on the path to leadership.

Start When They Are Young

Your kids learn from watching you and your actions. If you have a positive attitude, face challenges and show them that failure is a learning opportunity. Encourage your children to step outside of their comfort zone whenever possible, push themselves mentally and physically, and take risks. This will allow your children to get comfortable standing up against fears and prepare them to face others.

At a young age, your child will be able to develop different traits and will learn more your actions. Be a good role model for them and show them what a true leader looks like. This will help them begin to adopt their own leadership skills and continue learning new skills into the future.

Teach Them To Work As A Team

A leader works with a team to achieve a goal. Team activities can help encourage your children to take charge and try to motivate everyone to work together. Even if they do not develop leadership skills on the team, it is important for them to see why it is important that an entire team works together and the value in having a team.

If you child does develop leadership skills on their team, be sure to help them best put these skills to use and make the team feel like they can only reach their goals with everyone working together. Teaching your child to be motivating to others may be a challenge but it is something that will help them become a better leader.

Use Motivation

Speaking of the importance of motivation, you should always motivate your children. Make sure they know what they are working towards, as well as the importance of what they’re doing, and that hard work pays off. Keeping your kids motivated can help them feel more confident in their work, feel as though they have significance, and can keep them interested in reaching their goals.

Work On Emotional Intelligence

According to this Forbes article, emotional intelligence (EQ) is a big factor when it comes to developing valuable leadership skills. Emotional intelligence is what helps us manage behavior, make personal decision that achieve positive results, and work through social problems.

EQ is a learned behavior from parents. Children watch how you act in your everyday life, how you respond to strong emotions, and acknowledge how aware of emotions you are.

Forbes mentions a study done by TalentSmart, which found that EQ is responsible for 58 percent of a leader’s performance in their job and 90 percent of top-performing leaders have higher EQs. Being attuned with our emotions may be difficult, but that is because we do not work on developing our EQs. Help your child develop their EQ and they will have a better chance at becoming an effective leader. Emotional intelligence is learned, and these behaviors can easily become habits. Learn more about EQ from the TalentSmart article.

Teach Your Child To Grow From Failure

Every single person, at some point in their life, will experience failure. Whether it is a test, a job interview, or working toward their dream, everyone will face this challenge and have to learn how to deal with it. Teaching your child that failure is okay, will allow them to understand that they can take risks. A leader must learn to take risks and understand the consequences that could come from them.

After your child has faced failure a few times, they will be able to better understand what risks are worth taking. This will help them in many different areas of their life—decision making, comparing risk versus reward, and perseverance.

Teach Perseverance

This is an important part of being a leader and it goes hand-in-hand with failure. Teaching your kids to keep trying and push their challenges and mistakes can help them work until they get it right, and when they finally achieve their goal, they will feel more accomplished and proud of themselves. Failing is only a chance to try something again in a different way, teach them that failure means nothing more than that and have them continue to push themselves and work until they figure it out.

Communication Is Key

Remember that all good leaders are great at communicating. Teach your children how to communicate with everyone, from adults to their peers. Emphasize what good communication looks like compared to bad. Don’t talk for them, allow your children to order their own food, ask adults questions, and communicate with you effectively rather than yelling or throwing a tantrum.

Good communication is not only a good leadership skill, but a life skill that your kids will carry with them throughout their entire lives. Teaching good communication can help them in more ways than one, which is why it is so important to teach them from a young age.

Work On Decision Making

Dealing with failure, working towards a goal, and learning how to act in response to our emotion, all go along with learning how to make good decision. Teaching your child to make good decisions and how to do so can help them greatly in life. They will learn to think about the outcome, why this decision is important, and how it will affect their lives. This is an important quality for a leader to have, and the sooner your child learns the value of good decision making, the easier their life will be.

Let Them Do Their Own Thing

If your child is working on a project, attempting to learn something, or working on an activity, let them work alone. If they struggle, take a step back and let them work their the problem by themselves. Allow them to do things on their own, make their own decisions, and work through their failures. This will teach them not to always rely on receiving help. They will learn to work through their own issues and get the satisfaction of figuring it out on their own. This is a great way to help your children build more confidence, become more independent, and realize the importance of hard work and perseverance.

There are many things you can do to help your children develop leadership skills, this list in only highlighting a few of the most important things that make up a leader. Even if your child does end up being more of a follower, they will benefit greatly from these lessons you taught them.

These lessons, along with an education at Resurrection Christian School, can put your children on a path to success and help them become an effective leader. At RCS, we value leadership and teach our students how to be leaders and what it takes. The lessons you teach your children, along with what we teach at our school, have the potential to make leaders out of more children than most people would expect.

Learn more about the RCS today and work with your children to a learn and understand the importance of these different leadership skill. Feel free to contact us with any questions.