The Influence of Communication for Teens – Part 2

Communication is such an important aspect of life. It can be hard to deduce how best to communicate with your child about the importance of being able to express themselves and talk to other people. As the saying goes “it takes a village to raise a child.” Don’t think that the responsibility of showing your child how to express themselves falls entirely on you. RCS is here to help you teach them healthy ways to communicate and why to develop important communication skills. In our previous blog, we explored the risk of not developing communication skills and some ways you might show them how to communicate better. In this entry, we’ll discuss the various aspects of good communication and how it affects all of us in our day-to-day lives.

Benefits of Communication:

Expression is a key benefit of speaking out. While this isn’t always a matter of verbal communication, it’s about being comfortable in your own skin. If your teen loves Doc Martens but feels like they’ll be interpreted in a certain way if they wear those, let them know it’s a sign of expression and they shouldn’t care what people think. Expression is an important part of feeling stable and able to talk about what you feel is important to you. This ensures that your child won’t feel the need to express themselves by dying their hair pink down the road because they don’t feel heard. Instead, they’ll dye their hair pink cause they like pink, or they’ll dye it a flattering color because it promotes their professional goals in life.

Another major benefit of regular communication skills is being able to describe your feelings and understand yourself on a deeper level. If you can describe an experience you can fully understand it. It’s like a reading comprehension question, but in regard to day-to-day life and how they need to be able to handle different situations. By regularly being able to describe a situation, they’ll get better at viewing it objectively and acting rationally rather than based on what their feelings dictate. That goes hand-in-hand with the ability to explain yourself. If you can talk about your values, beliefs and perceptions comfortable you’ll be able to build more open relationships with the people around you. If those surrounding your teen don’t understand your teen, they’ll feel isolated because they are isolated. But that all starts with them. They need to feel confident enough in their communication skills to address their issues in a room and make it so that other people can understand where they’re coming from. That’s the very basis of healthy conflict resolution.

The Ability to Question is Gift

It’s more than being anti-establishment, it’s actually the secret to personal growth. Asking questions doesn’t mean you’re insubordinate to your superiors, it means you seek understanding and you gain a better understanding. If your teen knows why they’re doing something, then they’ll feel happier doing it. People want to know the why behind things so they can rationalize why they have to do it. For example, your teen needs to go to a good school, get a good education and learn how to become a lifelong learner so that they can succeed in the career path they choose. Giving your child the opportunity to communicate first with you equips them to be able to communicate with other people, ask questions and express themselves in a healthy manner so that they feel happier on a regular basis.

Success Is Due to More Than Communication; It’s Due to Education

Having an amazing, private school education that gives you the classical background to communicate concisely and eloquently is the first step any child should take toward success. Whatever path your child chooses for their future career, they need to be equipped to communicate with authority. A classical education can give them the base to explore their world with open eyes and the freedom to speak their minds tactfully. Reach out to RCS, the top rated private school in Northern Colorado to find out more about giving your child the proper building blocks to excel at whatever they try at.


The Influence of Communication for Teens

We know that sometimes it certainly seems easier to just not talk to your teens. They’re combative and nearly always on edge and all those hormones racing through their blood make them into a person that’s not really them. Of course, you want your teenager to be able to talk to when they need you, as you’re their guardian, but establishing that dynamic isn’t always easy. Especially when they’re under layers of stress from feeling unmoored in a world that seems new and unfamiliar every day. Of course, that is an extreme and your teen is hardly a volatile little bottle of poisonous words, hormones and unchecked expectations for the world, they are tumultuous. Understanding how to not let that phase you is part of being a good parent and modeling how to be a good adult to them.

Staying Accessible Is Staying in Their Life

When your teen goes out in the world, you don’t know what they’re doing. You have some idea, certainly, but you don’t know how their studies are going in the sense that you don’t know if they’re actually learning or if they’re developing passions for any of the subjects. You know they’re at school and their extracurriculars, but you don’t know if they’re getting anything out of it unless they’re talking to you. In the worst scenario, not knowing how your child is doing in school and if they’re finding passions in their academics and social activities could put you at a disadvantage when your teen starts displaying any sort of unhappiness or when they need help because you don’t know anything about their life. The key to fostering a relationship like this is avoiding criticism. If your child wants to talk to you about something that happened that day they might have messed up, the answer is not to respond with critique. They won’t see it as you helping them, they’ll see it as you not approving of them and shutting them down immediately.

Communication Is Valuable.

If you have any experience in the workplace, you know that communication is of the utmost importance. Since they are your child, they seek your approval in a way you’ve never sought the approval of your co-workers which makes this communication so much more important. They need a sounding board for everything they’re thinking, feeling, experiencing, wanting and not wanting in their life. At times, they just need to feel like they’re not talking to themselves. In fact, there is some evidence that supports the idea that when teens talk to their parents they develop the skills to speak up for themselves. They become less afraid of presenting their own actual opinions and ideas and more functional adults because of it. People who can communicate well with anyone they come across are noticeably more successful than the people who feel stunted by what others will think of their opinions and how they feel about things. This is a skill that will help your child benefit throughout their life in their social and professional lives.

Developing the Wrong Communication Skills

If your child does not develop these skills, they’ll start to develop a form of communicating that is actually the opposite of verbal communication. They’ll expect people to be able to guess at their emotional state and they will become awkward in social situations, prone to shyness and social invisibility which promotes general isolation in life. This is a hardly a healthy way to communicate. The best way to teach a teenager is to lead by example and talk about how there are benefits to speaking up for yourself. Teenagers are inherently filled with a desire to go against the status quo, so if you tell them to speak up more, they’ll view that as criticism, but if you admire the trait in something like a fictional character that you both like, they might associate that as a role model’s trait and try to emulate it. Try casually pointing out a few of these benefits of speaking out in your everyday lives.

Give Your Child the Right Background

Enrolling your child in private schooling equips them with the eloquence they need to feel comfortable articulating their thoughts openly and tactfully. With experience communicating in class with their peers in an educated and civil way, they’ll be able to learn about communication with you, the parent, as well as with other people in their life. Teach your child the meaning of a classical education. Enroll them in the best private school in Loveland today.


Are Video Games Bad For Your Child?

The current political environment is rather tumultuous. There’s plenty of he said she saids and a variety of other arguments that have proven more and more problematic as time goes by. One of those many controversies includes whether or not video games contribute to the aggressiveness in children. Many people are pointing to the quote from Jay Hull, the Dartmouth University professor who proclaimed in the press release for his newest findings on the matter that: “If your kids are playing these games, these games are having a warping effect on right and wrong or they have a warped sense of right and wrong and that’s why they are attracted to these games.” However, the quote and most of the contents of the study are often taken out of the proper perspective to support this narrative of “games are bad for kids.” In fact, Psychology Today claimed that most of the discussions surrounding the piece have been in regard to the press release for the study, rather than the study itself. They mention specifically that “It turns out that this is just another example of how social science is often oversold to a public without the statistical knowledge to evaluate problematic claims.” So, are video games really bad for your children? How will they affect their future emotional stability, their success and what sort of effect does it have on the work you’ve been doing to help them earn their classical education from a high ranking private school? The proper question is actually probably does it have any sort of effect at all? In short, no.

The Actual Research

Learning to read research papers is something that people spend quite a bit of time on, as in they can get a good portion of a college degree merely learning how to properly read research papers and draw conclusions from data. Thus, hoping to be able to grasp these larger concepts as a layman might prove difficult.  We’re here to help you slog through the strange terms and redefine some previous misconceptions you might have when glancing over a study similar to the one Dartmouth produced. In the Dartmouth study, in particular, conducted something called a “meta-analysis of studies of youth to see to what degree violent video games contributed to physical aggression.” First, that means, they were basing most of their data off of other people’s data which is not the best way to conduct the scientific method, as you know if you’re familiar with it. Additionally, they certainly make you believe that they’re measuring these youths over physical aggression, like serious acts of violence like homicides, fights and aggravated assaults. However, they only used teen’s self-analysis and confession of feelings rather than actual evidence of aggression. They specifically mention asking how they would respond to “If I have to resort to violence to protect my rights, I will” as a statement that indicated elevated aggression. If you were asked that question, would you say that you weren’t willing to protect your rights with violence? Probably not. Does that mean you’re an aggressive individual? Also, probably not.

The Actual Study

For that big claim Dartmouth’s leading professor made, it’s rather shocking in comparison to the data he managed to collect. The study itself even mentions that only 1% of youths self-reported in an increase in feelings of aggression, let alone physical representations of actual aggression. This is actually an example of a quite common phenomenon among social science research. For example, if you ask people if they play “violent video games” and then you proceed to ask them how angrily they’ve broken things, those points of data tend to drift toward each other, but that doesn’t mean that’s an accurate way of pulling this sort of data. It’s like asking someone you’ve never seen if they’re white, if they’ve been around people of another race and then asking them how they feel about that race and assuming that that’s an accurate metric of how is racist and how isn’t. The first set of questions creates a bias toward the response of the second question. Psychologists and other scientists alike have expressed that most of these studies, including this one, does not include any more useful information than a Buzzfeed article which is why they have similar headlines.

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How to Raise Happy, Strong Children

Being a parent is stressful. You have quite a bit on your plate, but most importantly you need to concern yourself with the most important investment of your life: your child. Your child’s well-being is one of the most important parts of your everyday life and once you have their basic needs covered, your mind will start to wander toward your child’s emotional development. With so many folks online talking about their abusive childhoods and how easy it is to make a small mistake in regard to rearing your child. So how do you ensure you’re raising a child that will be as resilient as they need to be? Start off with always having their success in mind. If they’re enrolled at RCS, you’re probably already on the right track.

They Feel in Control

We’re sure you’ve seen the various Facebook posts about how controlling parents can damage a child’s long-term emotional development. There are some studies to back up this assertion, but they mostly come in the form of encouraging a successful child. The leading parenting expert in the UK, Sue Atkins, claims that adults who are successful felt in control in their childhood. There are also several strong examples of children succeeding based off of strong, close relationships with their close relatives and people they love. If they feel valued and have control over their lives and the direction they’re going in, they’re far more likely to succeed than children who are constantly urged in the opposite direction of the way they want to go. According to the same leading parenting expert extrapolated that children who won’t have much in the way of emotional stability as adults don’t feel connected to others, don’t feel like they count, and don’t feel capable of taking care of themselves. Most importantly, however, is that children have to feel courageous and brave in order to accomplish their goals and be stable as adults.

Why Are These Attributes Important?

Having the above attributes in both children and adults gives us a positive attitude about life. Quite simply put, it gives the whole thing purpose. The idea is that these four basic building blocks that create a sense of security for the child will certainly promote a “Can Do” attitude later in life, which will render them capable of handling the things that life throws at them. The hope is that children with these advantages will become responsible, happy, and self-reliant. Naturally, as a parent, finding these attributes in your child will be a relief. As it means you’ve done your job fundamentally well.

The Stem Is Connection

In most cases, a human’s ability to both survive mentally and physically relies largely on the ability to connect to others. To put it simply, we move from being infants who are totally dependant on others to being interdependent on others, because that streak never quite leaves. With strong connections to the important people in the child’s life, they’ll be able to thrive and feel secure in their endeavors because there’s always something to fall back on.

Foster Connectivity In the RCS Community

The easiest way for you to foster a sense of connection between you and your child as well as help them build a support system of their own starts with creating a community for them. Wouldn’t you want the community to be more centered around Christian values and the love of education and the pursuit of knowledge? Enroll your child at RCS to receive the private school level of education while tapping into a community where your child can feel supported and safe and thrive throughout the rest of their emotional development.


What is a Classical Education?

A classical education is rooted in the idea of training the mind to think critically. This method is supposed to create lifelong learners. As we know, industries change at the speed of light nowadays. If you aren’t a lifelong learner and you’re rather set in your ways, it’s unlikely that you’ll do as well as you can in your career field. As a parent, we’re sure you’re invested in the future of your child and you want them to succeed. If you’re like most parents, you might even go so far as to take some time pondering how exactly you can give your child the right foundational education to ensure that they thrive throughout their whole life. In most cases, we urge you to invest in a well-rounded, classical education like the one we offer at Resurrection Christian School. Our private schooling education makes a difference in our alumni’s lives because we teach a curriculum that encourages a love of learning and knowledge and encourages rather than forces learning. Below, we’ll continue to explore what a classical education is, and how it can benefit your child in it’s teaching structure.

Training The Mind

Do you have a love of reading? How was it fostered? By forcing yourself to read anthologies regarding history and mathematics? Or did it start with something you learned to enjoy? Perhaps it was a piece of classical literature or something similar, but whatever it was, it had the proper effect. Your love of reading has followed you through life and rendered you a more capable individual in all of your interests regarding hobbies or your career. So how do we foster this similar love of learning and pursuit of knowledge in young minds? Through a tried and true three-part process called the trivium. Where traditional classical educations often begin with merely learning the facts a regurgitating it, more modern classical education studies center on creating a love for the learning while still improving the fact so that the child can have a solid foundational knowledge of simple mathematics and language operations before beginning to play with these pursuits.  

The First Portion Of a Classical Education

Uncreative administrators of the classical education view the first portion of a classical education as the “grammar stage.” But if you compare it to the original idea of a classical education, it’s rather unrelated. The original version of a classical education included advanced studies of different languages which would bolster the child’s skills at learning languages later in life and easily and successfully turn them into lifelong learners. Interestingly enough though, one of the main basics of the original classical education, in the sort that kings and queens, as well as higher-ups in the various courts all over the world, learned first was philosophy. The notion was that the child would be able to learn how to apply philosophical ideas to everyday life and have a better handle on human behavior as well as language and interactions than otherwise.

The Grammar Foundation

As important as it is to create a strong foundation for your child’s learning is, the various ways to get there should be acknowledged and analyzed. Our curriculum leaves room for you to interpret how you want your child’s private education, that is in truth a classical education, to proceed. The grammar stage lays the foundation for the rest of your child’s learning, so ensuring that it’s starting out in the way you’d like it to is important. Check out our curriculums for early childhood learning development and feel free to ask RCS questions about our teaching methods and our philosophy surrounding the classical education you’re investing in for your child.

Invest In The Future At RCS

Don’t enlist your child in public school and roll the dice on their education. Enlist your child in a high-quality learning institute that will help you foster a love of knowledge and the desire to always seek more. Start on the right foot starting today. We provide Christian centered, well-rounded education that bolster your child’s chances of success and much more. We’re passionate about sharing knowledge with your child and ensuring that they don’t struggle, but thrive in their academics. Reach out to us now.


The Secret to a Well Rounded Education

If you’re pondering enrolling your child in private school, you’re probably aware of the value of being a learned individual in the 21st century. In fact, for the past hundreds of years, being someone with plenty of book smarts, and being equipped with a whole, well-rounded education is an advantage that can’t be matched by much. Setting your child up for life includes a myriad of things, like saving for college, teaching them moral obligations, but it also comes with more subtle lessons and tasks. Sometimes, instead of being able to derive some of the most important lessons from various texts, you’ll need to employ experience. As a parent, there’s a whole host of ways that you can access experiences for your child to partake in. For culture and other finer things can only be appreciated after you’ve fostered an appreciation for the ideas of them. Architecture isn’t stunning if it seems commonplace to your child.

The Power of History

To form our ideals of a well-rounded education, we’ve included the study of Christian religions, and the includes the things that bolstered the Christian religion like an acknowledgment of the hardships of yesteryear and how far and long the good book has traveled to be a scripture to this day. Encouraging a sense of awe for how many years the scripture has survived can begin by encouraging an appreciation for the other accomplishments from human-kind. The best way you can combine the principles of awe in regard to our accomplishments as well as create new experiences for your child is travel. There’s nothing quite like going to a new and completely different place to help you really get a sense of how other people live and how their culture formed as opposed to our own. We’ve collected some of our favorite locations to visit to improve your child’s view of history and the incredible expanse of years between us and the monuments that miraculously still stand today.

Rome, Italy

It’s certainly something to seethe birthplace of the Christian religion as well as the birthplace of modern civilization. Rome is home to buildings that are painted the colors of the sunset, with little, rough-hewn cobblestones that are interrupted by little green sprouts that poke up between each cobble. The buildings are all decorated with carved angels, crown molding painted crisp eggshell white and columns with holes drilled into the stone to extract the ancient Roman’s extra support metal that went through the center for more industrial purposes over the centuries. You can peer at the huge chariot ring, with huge modern and ancient buildings built up around its rim, with a gorgeous carved fountain browning the center of the arena and some remainder of the old stadium seating lingering at the elongated curve on either edge. You can walk among the seats of the Coliseum and see the stone crumbling from thousands of years of weathering and use. Pass through catacombs filled with bones and prayers from long-dead lips carved into the walls near the crypts. You can even peer over certain railings along the sidewalk and look down into the depths of what the city once was, as Rome has rebuilt itself on the remains of its old buildings from its start. You can peek through years of history and watch the city evolve through layers, now covered with moss and foliage, but still visible. It’s a stunning area, and the mixture of modern culture in tandem with the undertones of thousands of years of history makes a culture that’s entirely unique from ours.

Beyond the Scenery

Once you get past the surface beauty of such a remarkable place, it’s still a perfect opportunity for your child to get the experiences they need to earn that well-rounded education you’re hoping they’ll have by the time they’re an adult. With the additional knowledge that they can gain from their experiences at Resurrection Christian School, they’ll be able to form opinions about the history they’re walking through. They’ll be able to appreciate the Borgia apartments when they tour the elaborate frescos within the walls of the Vatican as well as marvel at how well the Catholic church has managed to preserve hundreds of years of history for mankind. They’ll get to observe piazzas from ancient Rome that have completely encased and preserved by the Vatican as well as the magnificent art from renaissance artists that have managed to survive for the past 600 years because of the marvel of organized Christianity and an appreciation for humans as they are made in God’s image and love the joy of creation.

The Difference Between Text and Experience

Seeing pictures is never enough in regard to the wonders of art and architecture and human creation. Experience is far preferred and while there are little wonders to be experienced in everyday life, the real privilege comes into play. There are amazing things to be seen in your local area, but the culture and history we have access to is nothing in comparison to what the literal birthplace of Christianity has to offer. From tiny tiled mosaics to subway stations full of bustling people and so much more. If we were to recommend a real bonding experience that can double as a way to put your child’s world education above and beyond, we’d recommend Rome, Italy.

Set The Right Foundation

Rome has been around for so long because the foundation that men like Caesar and Constantine laid for the city. Set the right foundation for your child by investing in their education from the very start. At Resurrection Christian School, we’re interested in providing our students with the sort of education that creates well-prepared adults who are cultured, well-advised and have the proper idea of who God is in their life. Reach out to us to find out more about enrollment opportunities and more now.


Why The Gap Year Might Be Beneficial After Private School- Part Two

If you’re joining us late, be sure to go back and catch the intro to our ideas about the beneficial uses of a gap year between high school and college. As we mentioned in our previous entry, the gap year develops the child’s prefrontal cortex which develops their worldview as well as their personality and rounds them out their expectations of reality.

Financial Relief

One of the major advantages for most kids and their parents alike is the financial hiatus. If you’ve been spending money to give them a classical education for the majority of their life, a financial break might be highly valued for you and also for your child if they’re preparing to go and support themselves at college, even if you’re prepared to pay for their tuition. As more people go to college and get worthless degrees the number of people who have only a pile of student debt to show for their 4-year college degree rises. Kids who feel the need to switch majors in the middle of their college career stretch the costs out, making the whole ordeal more pricey. Studies are finding that a gap year might reduce the number of folks who change their major in the middle of their college career. Gap years are praised for assisting people in deciding what they’d like to study and helping find their passions and what they’re best suited to in a way that unfiltered education cannot.

Diversified Preparation

College is rigorous and while RCS does everything we can to prepare children academically there are a variety of challenges that nothing but real-life experiences can prepare them for. While there are a host of support systems and other channels that Christian private schools provide for children, there is still a cost for going to college too early and that is mainly the taxing nature it takes on a person’s mental health if they’re not prepared. The idea of the gap year is to take kids out of their safe zones and thus improve their self-confidence and help them gain a sense of self and adaptability which can be a powerful skill set to earn before entering college. College environments are full of lack of sleep, constant activity and high levels of stress that past experience in adaptability to a variety of situations will help kids tackle those things like pros so they can focus on the new chapter of their life and what obstacles will help them grow the most as people.

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If you share our opinions about education and religious ethics you’d fit in perfectly at RCS. Enroll your student today to give them a well-rounded education that includes Christian values. Reach out to us with any questions or concerns. We’d be happy to talk to you about our private school curriculums and ideals.

 


Why The Gap Year Might Be Beneficial After Private School

Some people go so far as to criticize private schooling at times, mentioning that there is a limited pool of social growth that a child can acquire when they’re submerged in a controlled environment. For several reasons, Resurrection Christian School is careful to push back against those claims, but we can also see how, even through RCS provides a large environment for children to build many social skills with fellow Christians, we understand the need for real-world experience. If, as a parent, you’re more concerned about this valuable outside world experience being cultivated in your child, we have one suggestion that is earning more respect as the years go by: the gap year.

Europe Did It First

Sometimes, Europe is ahead of the curve with certain things and in this case, they certainly are. Germany, the UK, Denmark and even Australia and Israel encourage students who have just graduated to take a gap year in between their studies. This time can be used to travel, serve the church, serve in the military or work before moving on to their college studies. However, the current U.S. climate regards gap years with a collective panic. Surely, if your child takes a gap year, they’re destined to not do as well as others. The growing consensus is that it isn’t quite true anymore. The idea is that if children get a taste for the non-school life they’ll realize how important it is to go back and it will give the privilege of going to college and earning a degree a new glow. In fact, psychologists at large are not worried about kids not wanting to go back to school as many studies done on the subject found that around 90 percent of the kids that take a gap year return to their studies with new fervor. The studies concluded that a very important brain growth period between those two school periods allows for the person to grow socially and within their understanding of the world.

The Simple Science:

While a gap year isn’t for everyone, it has quite a bit of scientific data backing up the benefits for those it catches the fancy of. The prefrontal cortex is continually expanding in the late teen years and it is the section of the brain that develops the child into an adult with an adult personality. It controls your propensity for planning and draws complex conclusions from data. In other words, it’s the largest jump in growth in the form of maturity that your child will see in their lives. Thus, when the gap year comes to a close, they’ll nearly be a different person with a new understanding of themselves and college as a growth opportunity.

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Catch the continuation of our argument for a gap year on our next blog.


Creating Open Lines Of Communication With Your High School Student

High school can be a wonderful time during which you watch your child transition from adolescent to adult. It can also be a challenging time of change for your child as they navigate the complex waters of teenagehood. The best thing a teenager can have in their life during the highs and lows is a parent who is involved and that they feel comfortable talking to about their day-to-day life.

If you are working to create stronger communication between you and your high school student, we are here to help. At Resurrection Christian School, we encourage parents to play an active role in the development of their high school student. Read on to learn more about how you can create open lines of communication with your high school student.

Always Have Time

In order for your high school kid to feel comfortable approaching you to talk about their struggles and celebrations, they need to know you have time for them. If you are always in a rush and constantly on the go, it might be hard for your child to approach you.

Make sure you carve out time specifically set apart for your high schooler. During this dedicated period of time, you can ensure your child knows you are there to listen and engage with them and only them. Turn off your work phone, cellphone, and any other distraction. You can use this time to go out together, to enjoy a meal they like, or to take a hike. However you spend this time, the goal is to ensure your child knows they come before your busy schedule.

Not only should you dedicate some time each week to engage one-on-one with your high schooler, you should also make it clear that any time of any day, they are your priority. Always have time for communication.

Be Patient And Practice Empathy

High school can be a confusing period. Many kids go through some pretty steep ups and downs. Their body is changing, their hormones raging, and their mood can swing from high to low in no time at all. While it can be frustrating to deal with teenagers in certain moments, always practice patience and empathy when you are communicating with them.

If you express anger and judgment, your high schooler will stop turning to you when they need to talk about their life. When you find yourself frustrated with their actions, attitude, or decisions, take the time to calm down before you talk to them. Try to remember what it was like to be a teenager and empathize with the changes they are going through.

Above all else, your teen wants to be respected and treated with dignity. Make sure you are expressing your love for them, even during the difficult times.

Make Listening A Priority

It is human nature to want to do the majority of talking and teaching, without taking the time to fully listen. Make sure that when your child comes to you to talk about their life, you stop to listen. Not only is listening important so that they feel heard, it is also setting an example to your teenager about how communication works. If you find that you constantly are battling to talk over each other, make listening a new priority.

Let your high schooler know that you want to improve on listening to them and set the example by following through.

Know When To Apologize

Just because you are the parent, doesn’t mean that there aren’t times you were at fault. When you realize you have made a mistake, handled communication poorly, or hurt your teenager, have the humility to apologize. The best leaders are those who lead humbly with an open heart.

Take the time to recognize when you were in the wrong and express your apology to your child.

Keep Things Consistent

For many teens, high school is a confusing time. When your teenager has a constant barrage of inconsistent messaging, they can quickly become isolated from you. This is not only damaging to your relationship but also potentially dangerous if they should wind up in trouble and seek advice from the wrong place.

Keep things consistent in their life. Make sure the messaging they hear across the board encourages them to have a strong and honest relationship with you. Consider enrolling them in a private high school in Loveland that will reinforce the same values you teach at home. Consistency goes a long way in helping your teenager navigate high school smoothly. Here at Resurrection Christian School, we place a high value upon the family unit and always encourage our students to seek out the advice of their parents. If you are interested in enrolling your high schooler into a private school, we encourage you to book a tour at our facility today.

By building open lines of communication between you and your teen, you can ensure their safety and well-being as they transition from child to adult.

 


Ways to Help Your Children Finish the School Year Strong

It is hard to believe that summer break is just two months away as we continue to see sporadic snowstorms in Northern Colorado in this last week of March. But summer is, in fact, right around the corner and your children are likely getting excited. As the days pass by, your kids will be itching to get outside, hang out with friends, and forget about school for a few months. But don’t let them forget about school too soon!

It can be difficult to keep your children invested in their school work and focused until the very last day of school, but since finals exams and projects are often due during the last weeks of school, it is important that your kids work hard until the very end.

Family vacations, summer plans, and no school can be exciting for everyone in the family. But finishing the school year strong is important. We know that getting your children to stay focused seems like an impossible task, especially as the weather gets warmer and you all want to spend more time in the great outdoors. That is why we are going to offer some tips that can help you get your kids motivated to finish strong and start the summer off right. Read on for tips to help motivate you children!

Make Plans

Nothing will keep your children motivated like making excited plans for the first week of summer. But be sure to mention that they have to finish strong. Motivate them to work hard until the end of the school year and then reward them with a trip to Water World or a camping trip. You could make it even more official and make it a reward for finishing with good grade or passing their final exams. Knowing that there is a reward at the end will help keep them motivated to finish strong.

Create a Routine

Creating a homework routine after school that all of your children follow can help them make it a habit to do their school work before heading outside or starting their favorite show. If your children all do homework together while you make dinner, it will be easier for them to focus, rather than if one child is playing with their friends before starting homework.

It can also help to make a rule that each of your children has to finish their homework before doing anything else. However, we know that children need a break between being at school and doing homework, so allow them to spend half an hour or an hour relaxing, playing with neighbor kids, or doing something else they enjoy.This will allow them to recharge and prepare for the homework session ahead.

Incorporate Weekend Plans

While your kiddos will likely have homework over the weekend, plan a day to do homework and a day to have fun. Make family plans to get outside (if it is nice), go see a movie, or spend the day playing games and watching movies. These fun activities can help your kiddos destress, enjoy time with the family, and allows them to have some fun before jumping back into school work. Allow your children to take a break before heading right back to their work, this will just overwhelm them and wear them out.

Focus on Big Projects

Taking a look at the projects, assignments, and tests your children have to prepare for during the last weeks of school can allow you to help them prioritize the important things. If your child is a procrastinator, like many of us once were, you want to help make sure they are not saving their most important work for last. Encourage them to chip away at these large projects piece by piece so that when it comes down to the last few days they are not overly stressed. Teenagers are going to push back and tell you they have it under control, and they probably do, but try to get them to start their projects early. Rewards may not work on your high school junior, but you never know, taking them out for ice cream could be all it takes to get them started.

Stay Organized

If your children all do their homework at the kitchen table, it is likely that their stuff gets moved around alot. Be sure to keep each of your children’s work organized and together. This is not really your job, but kids will be kids and when it comes time to get back to their homework and they can’t find it, they will likely blame you. Give spots to your children where they can store their stuff to help them keep track of their work. It may also be helpful to get them different materials to stay organized with, like whiteboards, sticky notes, and calendars.

Stick to a Bedtime Schedule

While we already discussed creating a routine to help your kids, sticking to a bedtime schedule is also extremely beneficial. All of your children, no matter the ages, need to get at least eight hours of sleep a night. When your children are well rested, they will be able to stay focused on their school work better and make it through the day without feeling groggy. You don’t want your children falling asleep in class, too tired to pay attention, or struggling to complete a simple homework assignment because they did not get enough sleep.

Make School a Priority

Your children may have soccer practice or a club that they have to attend, and we encourage extracurricular activities, but when these activities get in the way of school work, you will want to reassess and make school the first priority. Once your children start falling behind, warn them that if they don’t start making their school work a priority, they will not be allowed to participate in their extracurricular activities anymore. This may seem extreme, but you want your children to finish the school year strong.

Summer is exciting for everyone, especially children. They want to be done with the school year, spend their time outside, and have no responsibilities. We have all been there at one point, so don’t go too hard on your kiddos. But you do want to make sure that your children are finishing the school year with a bang. Don’t allow them to slack off and stop pushing to get good grades just because summer is on its way. Following these tips can help you encourage your children and keep them focused on their school work. Plan something fun for the first week of summer and keep them motivated to work hard on their school work.

At Resurrection Christian School, we know that the last weeks of school can be difficult. We encourage and help our students in any way possible to ensure they stay motivated and work hard until the very end. Learn more about our school and schedule a tour today!